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    Default Getting our of your head?

    Hey guys.

    I like to think I'm a pretty confident guy and that's what most people describe me as.

    But sometimes, in my head, I feel like im going crazy. My thoughts are all over the place, I'm like "you gotta be more like this! it's more alpha" or sh1t like that. I don't beat myself up too much. But I want to think less and just do, I hate having thoughts because more often than not they're less spectacular and I could be doing something else.

    So I have a question for you guys.

    How do you get out of your head? I don't want to contemplate every decision I make from how I sit in a chair to how I approach somebody. I just want to DO. I'm tired of my thoughts holding me back. I want UNBREAKABLE confidence, but a quiet confidence. I've caught myself being a little arrogant at times.

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    Default Re: Getting our of your head?

    it takes practice but it comes down to not consciously thinking, you just do it, i don't think about what's happening in my interactions anymore i just go with the fl0w

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    Default Re: Getting our of your head?

    I understand, but for a lot of body language stuff at least you need to be in your head at first. You're like correcting insecure habits, replacing them with better ones. Once you get used to it, you will stop thinking about it and just do it naturally and you will become more naturally confident

    Basically, it fades after you get used to it. For now, keep pushing yourself to Get out there to make these things habits
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    Default Re: Getting our of your head?

    Meditation helps. As well as proper diet and exercise. Don't think just do.

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    Default Re: Getting our of your head?

    i would have to agree with these previous posts, at first you will think alot about alot of stuff, and it can cause you to be less spontainious, but with practice, you get better at instinctively acting. just like learning how to drive a car, at first you think way too much, but with practice it becomes more natural

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    Default Re: Getting our of your head?

    and it can cause you to be less spontainious
    this did happen to me, i missed a few opportunities

    also part of it is not giving a fqck what people think of you (to an extent but not being over the top about it)

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    Default Re: Getting our of your head?

    I know what you mean. I've been on a knowledge binge recently and it has made the practical work (the most important part) more difficult than it should be.

    Your head is constantly filled with all this material you've read and gone over, and you begin to question all your thoughts and decisions and even the results of those decisions! Focusing on key areas is definitely helping and not putting too much on your plate at once.

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    Default Re: Getting our of your head?

    Quote Originally Posted by hit626 View Post
    I know what you mean. I've been on a knowledge binge recently and it has made the practical work (the most important part) more difficult than it should be.

    Your head is constantly filled with all this material you've read and gone over, and you begin to question all your thoughts and decisions and even the results of those decisions! Focusing on key areas is definitely helping and not putting too much on your plate at once.
    i definetly have to agree, you should not "study" more than you practice in the field, i would recomend breaking books up by only reading one chapter at a time and having some time in the feild in between each chapter. i personaly never read more than one or two chapters a week (it helps you to better understand what you've read by taking the books at a slower pace)

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    Default Re: Getting our of your head?

    i definetly have to agree, you should not "study" more than you practice in the field
    +1 and i learnt it the hard way, i was a knowledge junkie ageess ago, and when i started to apply what id "learnt," i couldn't because i didnt actually know it, once i started doing alot of the practical everything stuck and improvement was and is a constant process the only way is up if you practice practically

    most of my success came 200-300 posts in the forum -_- hahaha

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    Default Re: Getting our of your head?

    Quote Originally Posted by hyp View Post
    i definetly have to agree, you should not "study" more than you practice in the field
    +1 and i learnt it the hard way, i was a knowledge junkie ageess ago, and when i started to apply what id "learnt," i couldn't because i didnt actually know it, once i started doing alot of the practical everything stuck and improvement was and is a constant process the only way is up if you practice practically

    most of my success came 200-300 posts in the forum -_- hahaha
    Hey man good sh1t, Im in that phase now I gots to get myself out. Practical practice... I dig it. It's a skill like any other.


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