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    Default Re: The LOVE question

    She's just trying to get a response out of you. Make it clear that you care for her, but you're not ready to jump into the "love" category before it's true, because it won't mean anything if you do.

    Honestly, this woman sounds like a lot of work. You guys are both playing too many games with each other. IMO, PUA stuff often fails when it is applied too strictly to relationships. There are aspects of PUA that should be applied in relationships, but if you follow the stuff you do pre-relationship while you're in a relationship, the relationship is bound to fail. Stop trying to game her, and start being yourself.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: The LOVE question

    I have to admit I didn't think about it that way.
    since I've started with the pua stuff I had great success but this is the first relationship I've used it on.

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    Default Re: The LOVE question

    some would say that the "love" word is a trap, but in my opinion there is nothing wrong with telling a girl you love her if you really mean it.
    it seems to me that she has fallen in love with you and she wants something called "reciprocity" (mutual feelings)
    she's just upset that you don't quite feel as attracted to her as she feels for you.

    often when this happens girls will try to feign disinterest to try to match the level of interest that you have given her.
    the solution is simple, be alpha and give her as much affection as you want back from her. you don't have to play so many games all the time.
    that said if a girl told me that she loved me and i didn't quite feel the same i would tell her "love is a strong word, and i don't want it to be meaningless"

    but whatever you do, don't tell her you don't love her, just don't tell her you love her. (if that makes any sense) keep building comfort and be yourself around her.

    ps. if she tries to withhold sex until you tell her, don't fall for that trap, just don't have sex with her until she gives in and has sex without you telling her

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    Default Re: The LOVE question

    Flemy do you love this girl or are too scared to tell her you love her for the sake of loosing 'status' in the relationship.A dominant man should not be scared to show emotion, in my opinion. Not that you may not be but for what i may tell you to work you must admit that you kind of do first.

    Women sense your energy and where you are coming from, you need to say it like you mean it, and also come from a place of dominance. If you miss out on this and this girl bottles this up then you have not being alpha. It’s your job to take care of her emotionally too. did that for this girl am 'seeing' and yes she told me she loved me first.

    it may feel weird sometimes but you indirectly fueled it. Take responsibility!!If nothing at all you are here looking for answers so i guess she may be special. You may update this thread

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    Default Re: The LOVE question

    well today she tried again and I told her that I would say it when I really feel it.
    she is playing it cold, and bugs me about smoking which I am not sure is connected.
    I admit I am getting tired of playing.

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    Default Re: The LOVE question

    Ok,i think the whole "I'll tell you when i really feel it" thing is getting repetitive and annoying IMO.Most likely she doesn't feel true love either,she just wants to feel wanted/cared for,that's it.

    Give her what she wants,unless you don't really care for her...in which case it makes me wonder why did you make her your gf ?

    Caring for someone is a way of loving,so you don't really lie.
    Also she probably uses the word "love" on you the same way she uses it on sweets and drinks,so you refusing to say that makes her wonder at this point why you are together...

    That's my opinion.

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    Default Re: The LOVE question

    Quote Originally Posted by Fl3my View Post
    well today she tried again and I told her that I would say it when I really feel it.
    she is playing it cold, and bugs me about smoking which I am not sure is connected.
    I admit I am getting tired of playing.
    Hey why don't you stop smoking if you can and play video games instead she may still bug you to stop but will see it is yur passion which is a positive thing.

    I admit I am getting tired of playing
    Good!!For now since you have been tossing her going direct may damage her feelings for you cuz she may have the "why now moment"which is BAD!!

    Instead start sending her sweet texts that get her thinking.see it as some sort of emotional escalation.then later you may tell her.if you don't mind on a way to tell her that dominant you may imply or state.

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    Default Re: The LOVE question

    Hey flemy, was on the previous post but something came up so here goes.what i am about to give you has been field tested before on an emotional campaign i had run.am giving you this since you seem to be passionate about this girl.i have never really seen you hint about other girls who knows you may have a huge harem..most of all you take action.kudos to you on that.

    In a nutshell if she asks you whether you love her or feel like she is testing you in that regard brush her on the arm slightly, or give a sly smile.you may also go for kino and then escalate.
    you may also tell her this.
    " why am i here? am not even going to think about it.." then go ahead and do what you were doing.this should knock her defenses off and make her think what you really mean.she can't say you don't like her since this communicates subliminally that ur here for her and its kind of spontaneous.

    if she hasn't tested you again or has previously you can text her this,
    "hey i was waiting to send you somewhere but decided i'll take action now.
    i love you.its the way you make me feel when your around me.."


    this should set your relationship up as she is working for you which is important.yur the prize.she seems to be the ltr hardcore type,and comparing the dynamics in your current situation and relation this is the one that matches in most ways.

    Hope you see this soon and decide to flip the dynamics in your favour again.Never be scared to tell a girl you love her if you feel like it sometimes it just may open a whole new window to the relationship.in a nutshell if a girl is expecting you to cross a huge bridge and your delaying, when you can, you not being dominant PEACE.


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