I just moved to Dayton, OH, and in the interest of meeting people...started checking out the bar scene. Found a bar that's pretty cool...and even better...has a hot bartender.
The night (Wednesday) I went there, I was waiting to get a beer...and it took her a while to get my beer. It wasn't packed...maybe 10 people there at the time. So, once I got my drink...I started giving her sh!t...but in a cocky funny way, making fun of her for making me wait...etc. Night turned out to be pretty good, interacted with people at the bar...basically trying to make it look like I was an interesting person. I would go play a game of pool...or darts...come back...talk to her for a bit...then go back to another game of pool. Drank until last call and before I left I asked her when she works there. She told me Friday and Saturday and that I should come back. I didnt really take this as an IOI...since of course the bar is going to want more patronage.
I went back on Friday and Saturday (Basically just trying to meet people), long story short...same thing as the first day..kept talking with her.
For whatever odd reason, I felt like going out drinking....this past Thursday. Had a few drinks, and saw she was drinking with friends as well. I didnt really talk to her that much, I didnt want to make it seem like I was needy and all over her....so I just did my own thing. I ended up going to another bar that night...and she happened to be there (I saw her with her chick friends as I was walking in). I thought...fraaakkkkk ...she's gonna think I'm following her. So I just went to the bar...got a beer and made sure I was where she could see me. Started talking to a few of the bartenders...and then kinda started looking around the bar. We made eye contact and she waved at me...and I waved back and then kinda spoke up loud (She was maybe 10-20 feet away and the bar wasn't too loud) and said..."are you following me? I can't go anywhere without seeing you" in a non-serious way. She laughed and started wispering to one of her chick friends and pointed at me. At this point...I continued my convo with the bartenders. About 5 -10 mins later...she came over with one of her friends. Bar was pretty open...but they came up next to me. We started talking, find out we have a few things in common. I also find out she's having a girls night out. She buys me a few shots and then goes back over with her friends. This happens a few times (her coming over to me and buying me shots). So I think I saw a few IOI's that night.
1: Her coming up to me and standing pretty close to me
2: She kept brushing her arm up against me...
3: Bought me shots (Very rare experience for me)
4: Introduced me to her other friends
Now, last night (Friday), I went to her bar again...she was working, with the intention of maybe finding out if she had a bf...or something like that...and mayyyybe seeing if she wanted to hang out sometime. So, I did my normal thing as usual...drank beer...interacted with people. Since it was Friday, it was kind of busy, so I wasnt able to get to talk with her all that much, but a few of her friends from the night before were there. I started talking with them...bullsh1tting around...etc. Figured...win them over...might win her over...I dunno. Anyways, she kept looking at me, holding eye contact for a bit, and smiling while I was talking with her friends...so I took that as maybe another IOI. Long story short, at the end of the night, she was busy, so I wrote down a few things on a piece of paper and gave it to her...basically saying:
Hey, I know you're busy, but you seem cool enough to be able to hang with my awesomeness, maybe show me around the Dayton area. Text me ###-###-####
So, now...it's today...still no text...which doesn't bother me too much, but I'm not sure if I played this all out the right way. I'm not trying to get oneitis...but I've got my sights set. I think, maybe a good thing for me to do would be to bring a group of friends to the bar...but not sure...and it would be hard since I just moved here not too long ago.
Should I go back tonight? I was thinking about grabbing a beer...and then "getting" a phone call and having to leave for another bar....kind of like doing a time constraint....
Help!! *BTW...I do know bartenders are hard to really gauge...because they get hit on all the time, but I'm think because of the events that have unfolded...I've differentiated myself. I've never hit on her...just talked and made fun of her bartending skills.*