Hey Guys, I’m 30 yrs old and I met this girl who is 24 yr old girl at the bar and got her number.
“This is a continuation to a post earlier in the week”.
We got together for a coffee the first week and totally hit it off. Arranged a date with her through texting the following week and we went for dinner and drinks, again we had a great time together and we were both into each other, ended making out with her in the car before dropping her off at home.
Throughout this two week process we’ve been texting back and forth. I’ve been trying to gain a stronger attraction from her through texting by trying to be cocky funny , which for the most part she’s gone along with it to the best of her ability as she doesn’t always have the best responses due to the language barrier.
Anyhow to the point, she got upset with the fact that I was taking way too long to respond between texts and she basically implied that she not playing games. Once we patched that up I asked her out again, which then she responds,
“Her: I would like to but I’m busy with exams right now. Some weekend…Will see”
I was cool with that. This is where it gets confusing. The same week I get a text on Friday night 2:00 a.m. on my way home from a party,
Her: Are you out tonight?
Her: where about?
Me: On my way home from a party.
Her: I’m just getting home, but can you meet me at my place if you don’t mind that I’m a bit drunk..
Seeing that her place is on my way home, why not??
When I get there, she hops in my car and starts chatting non sense, of course she’s drunk. She doesn’t invite me up to her place, probably because she has roommate. After awhile I move in for a kiss and we begin making out in my car for 30min. She finally pulls away and I assume she wants to be dropped off.
I’m usually great a reading the situation, but this girl does not express anything or say anything for that matter that would even hint she wants to come home with me. I guess I was oblivious not aggressive enough and trying to be a gentlemen waiting on her to initiate. When I pull up in front of the building to drop her off she gets upset and says “everyone is so boring and predictable”. I asked her what she meant and she responds “don’t take it personal, it’s not you, its everyone”. It took me 10 min to figure out of her what she meant, I felt like I was trying to decipher code, loll,,.. Basically I understood it as she wanted me to be more aggressive and that she doesn’t want to make out in the car. Which makes sense; we’re not in high school. Having now been offended and feeling like a wimp, I respond
“We’re going to my place, are you fine with that”? To which she responds, “YES” I put the transmission into drive and speed home.
We get to my place, and we start going at it. After some foreplay, I try to remove her clothes and she pulls away several times. She then says, “Is this what you think I meant”? “Do you think this is why I came over”? At this point she stops and she starts chatting with me about how she hates the texting mind games…3:30 a.m.
I’m completely lost at this point!!
Again I initiate a kiss and it begins to get hot and heavy to the point she ends up dry humping me for 20 min. Again I try to remove her clothes and again she pulls away. At this point I’ve just about had it and we end up falling asleep. I drove her home in the morning.
The next evening I was out celebrating a friend’s bday at the same lounge we met at a few weeks back. I decided to send her a text, to which she responds:
Me: how’s you night going?
Her: Great, just at a friend’s place.
15min go by, just before I’m about to send her a text inviting her to come out, I end up walking out of the bathroom and bumping right into her. It was awkward to say the least. I never mentioned to her that i was celebrating a bday at this lounge, it was a complete coincedence.
Anyhow, to the point. We end up dancing, chatting, drinking...etc… I get back to my friends party and start chatting it up with a pretty girl, etc enjoying my night. Throughout the night I see her chatting it up with a guy and getting really cozy with him. I’m not concerned, don’t really care, she’s not my girl friend, and I’m not holding back either, it’s all part of the game the way I see it. She eventually makes her way back to me closer to the end of the night and asks me to wait for her, which I did for 15 min, and she never came back. At this point my friends were outside waiting for me, so I decide not to wait any longer and I left. When I got outside I saw her chatting it up with the same guy and he was punching something into his phone, I can only guess that it was her number. At this point I’m a bit drunk, so I hoped into cab and just before the cab leaves she taps on the window and ask if she could come with me, to which I accepted. (I’m Drunk and Horny)
We get back to my place, we start making out, and it’s getting intense. I managed to finally remove her clothes accept for her bra and panties. We fooled around in my bed dry humping and each time I would attempt to take it further she would turn over or pull away, each time smiling, not really the shyness type it felt more like her intensions were to tease me. She would not let me do anything to her other than make out and dry hump and she never returned the favor, if you know what I mean. I was always the one initiating and I felt like a puppy chasing her in my own bed!! She knew I was frustrated, I asked her what was wrong and she would just smile and not answer the question. “She left me high and dry” both nights!! We fell asleep and I drove her home the next day.
I’m frustrated because normally I’m able to read the situation but I can’t with her, she doesn’t express herself at all, I can’t really tell if it’s because she is shy or if she has a hard time expressing herself, maybe the language barrier? (I doubt its the language barrier as her English is quite good for the most part)
I date regularly and i have never encountered this. I’m very much physically attracted to her and was open to a casual summer fling. I will not be pursuing this girl any longer; I don’t have the time to play these high school games. I wanted to share my experience with the community in hopes that you guys could enlighten me on what the hell happened? I have three theories, either she is a immature and still a virgin, or she’s not going to give it up until it’s a serious relationship, or I’m being seriously played. It amazes me to see how flirtatious she can be in the club but when we’re out, or at my place I get completely stone walled. I have this gut feeling that she’s toying with me.
I know I may have made some strategic errors along the way, however, the second night I was drunk and I figured I’d give her a second chance in hopes that the night before was an off night. Was I not aggressive enough, or is she toying with me?
My apologies for the long written novel, I tried to keep it short and to the point.
Anyhow any input would be greatly appreciated.