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    Default Re: Made gf wait too long?

    Stay alpha!!
    theres no point changing the norm just cause shes sh1tty with u, it makes u look even weaker in her eyes ie not making the usual coffee if that's ur thing
    just pull her aside, apologise once and forget about the whole thing, she'll come to her senses but it takes a bit longer

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    Default Re: Made gf wait too long?

    apologise once and forget about the whole thing, she'll come to her senses but it takes a bit longer

    staying alpha in this case is not to become a wussy but see the need to be a man and handle the situation while still maintain status in the relationship.
    Additionally
    av had girls who were my friend just want to hang out cuz their boyfriend made this similar mistake or the other.They love them but they are so hurt it changes them.That may not happen .I always find an excuse cuz i won't but seriously?

    Apologizing directly could hurt cause you may bring back memories of pain.Slipping it under the radar is best.it works in 2013.how?I handled a similar situation just yesterday.

    FACT:One thing the hurts relationships is lack of communication and properly unresolved disputes.

    Goodluck!!

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    Default Re: Made gf wait too long?

    I actually sent that message, Hope It will spark something

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    Default Re: Made gf wait too long?

    An update Now she wants to know what thing I saw in her

    should I tell about her pattern of behavior or would that be childish
    by pattern of behavior I mean how she looses track of time herself


    any suggestions?

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    Default Re: Made gf wait too long?

    Dude just apologise, it's kind of a dick move to just not turn up. Say you're sorry and then leave her to cool off..

    if this little spat is going to end the relationship then you have bigger problems

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    Default Re: Made gf wait too long?

    First tell her you will let her know later.I want to dish out a read but what behavior patterns are you talking about.

    Anytime your girl seems to be raising her voice whether she is complaining about something you did one thing that you may do that is dominant is say hey i won't take that from you, then change the subject.(she may pause)then if she stops that reward her by talking briefly then hanging up.if she is infront of you brush her arm slightly(do this sparingly) then go on and do something else other times just go and do something else.

    Hey it good you took action.she also asked me a similar thing

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    Default Re: Made gf wait too long?

    the pattern i'm talking about is loosing track of time especially but a few other quirks , the point is she keeps doing the the she hates other people do on to her and to be more specific:
    she keeps playing children's games with me, when she understands she's done something wrong shell try to kiss up to me and she gets irritated if I don't change my attitude fast she get's pissed.
    It's like only she can get hurt or has the right to

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    Default Re: Made gf wait too long?

    Quote Originally Posted by Fl3my View Post
    the pattern i'm talking about is loosing track of time especially but a few other quirks , the point is she keeps doing the the she hates other people do on to her and to be more specific:
    she keeps playing children's games with me, when she understands she's done something wrong shell try to kiss up to me and she gets irritated if I don't change my attitude fast she get's pissed.
    It's like only she can get hurt or has the right to
    Hmm interesting.I hope you didn't compound positive feelings u may haven given with negative realizations about her.It depends on a lot and what you mean by childish games.Is she trying to tell you she won't take second degree behavior from you(it shows she is a normal girl thats not bad you flaker ) or the other.

    I believe the word unaffected came into the community as a way to show a woman one is not phased by thier frame.which is very attractive.but you know what?
    Women in general do not like it when you seem to take things personal!!Period.Som etimes she is really sorry depends on what she does though(am talking minor like falsey accusation,spying) and wants your approval but she once she senses you have taken anything personal it lowers your value.as a man what moves you say a lot about your character to women.

    This is why passing tests from women work.However there are times she uses this to test you to see if you are easily broken because in evolution the tribal leader when faced with huge tests still seemed to pull through its hard wired in her brain..

    It goes something like this...
    I like fl3my because he is the man am attracted to now.
    i have expectations of men that am with
    Fl3my meets to my satisfaction currently
    WAIT!Did he just do that again.Hmm
    I'm not sure hes like that ok i'll prove it to myself.
    The rest is automatic.

    Women test you when there is a lack of congruence in your action as the man/character you portray to her.

    Initially she will test you to see if you meet but if you pass and is grounded and there is a break somewhere she has to be sure.it just happens.

    We really don't care about these things the thing is to pass this and look more attractive.Women want men that are stronger than them in some sense.in a nutshell it means emotionally stronger.

    Do not go to her and have a sh1t test conversation just learn to pass it is part of being a man.th

    if you could say some of the games she plays. pretty sure i may have seen the dynamic.there may be a sh1t test section but i want to see whether we can generate some responses custom tailor to your situation.refer to the sh1t test section though.

    You may tell me two positive traits she has so we can read her.am the kind of man if i tell a girl i'll tell her something in this case ill may.depends though

    On apologizing its not that i totally disagree with that but with your situation since you even compounded the issue by not making her coffee.(failed sh1t test)I had to write that.So i partially agree but in my experience if the woman is invested like she seemed to apologizing can hurt just clarifying.

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    Default Re: Made gf wait too long?

    your problem is resoundingly simple to ressolve; communicate.

    first off - she does have a right to be a little pissed at you for blowing her off to read something, I'd be pissed if a girl did it to me, so you need to apologise.

    the wider issue, you just need to calmly talk to her about when/if she does it again. If she starts getting annoyed because she's done something wrong and you won't forgive it right away you just tell her "I'm annoyed because you've done xxxxx". If she genuinely apologises then let it go, if not then freeze her out until she acknowledges it.

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    Default Re: Made gf wait too long?

    an update
    It's peaceful now, she calmed down, yesterday morning we made up,
    today she tried testing me with asking me to bring her stuff to bed.

    I ignored that at first until I came back to the room and saw her covered with ink from her pen with her laptop on her.

    I am not really sure if it was real or if she did it on purpose
    any way that went ok she tested me again when she almost spilled her coffee and I helped her.


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