Quote Originally Posted by Fl3my View Post
an update
It's peaceful now, she calmed down, yesterday morning we made up,
today she tried testing me with asking me to bring her stuff to bed.

I ignored that at first until I came back to the room and saw her covered with ink from her pen with her laptop on her.

I am not really sure if it was real or if she did it on purpose
any way that went ok she tested me again when she almost spilled her coffee and I helped her.
Good to know you are up for passing her tests.Hope you didn't blatantly apologize .if you did you must go back and rewind cuz it may kill the overall effect and most importantly the dominant frame that you had cemented in the relationship.(I'll show you a sample frame)I'm going to assume you did not.

tried testing me with asking me to bring her stuff to bed.

I ignored that at first until I came back to the room and saw her covered with ink from her pen with her laptop on her.

This is not bad but some girls are fond of doing this.The best approach for me is to be unpredictable.why?it s not always that you will feel like carrying stuff for her so don't cement that into your relationship.Am not saying don't ever but another way of making sure she understand and knows you may never is by just stating:

"Hey babes go get that one, i know you can handle it."
if she objects:
I would love to but its just there..

with time you should begin to become that guy she will not tell to bring stuff,of course you will help her from time to time but the mindset here is to frame this so that you do not feel choked eventually.you're human

remember if its something she can handle and she is telling you to overtime it could be presented in a form of a shit test..Again be spontaneous but calibrate.

I am not really sure if it was real or if she did it on purpose
any way that went ok she tested me again when she almost spilled her coffee and I helped her.
This could be interpreted two ways it could be there is tension in your relation which is good(this indicates a dominant frame)or she was testing you which is most likely esp if you never helped in such situations before, either way you handled it well.

Girlfriend game and post game can be really in depth, if you miss one piece in the hierarchy it could hurt your status in the relationship which is supposed to be high.this doesn't mean controlling but simply being the attractive man.

Note:As you introduce some of these dynamics into the relationship she may test you a bit.why?because you may not have shown her that side yet.Once its cemented in her mind tests will be minimal to almost none at all.PEACE