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    Unhappy I can never win...

    Hey guys, first off I know you're gonna say I probably sound like an AFC but I need help, I am sick and tired of feeling like this.

    So last night this girl texted me to go out with her and her friends to the bar in town at college, I agree. Now this girl has been on and off with me, she asked me to be her fu*k buddy before we even farked and then flaked out on me. And then this is last night....

    Were there drinking, shes really into me (so I thought), I am just leaning against the bar she puts her arm through mine, leans on my shoulder. We go dance, we hold hands, my hands all all over her and vise versa, we kiss, etc. etc. But she keeps texting the whole night so I ask who it is and shes like "oh my friend, hes a hockey player."

    Her texting the whole night got me annoyed and then the guy she was texting shows up with all his friends (hockey and football players). Now that he is there she moved away from me at the bar, talked to him, came back. I went to the bathroom, I came out and shes all over him in a corner talking, holding hands, hands all over him. So, I ask her friend wtf is up with that and shes like"oh, idk she was talking to him for a while." So, i just grab my jacket and go home, alone, once again like every freakin night I go out.

    WTF!? Why, why me? WHy do I always lose to some jock. Last time I was texting a girl and when I was at the party she sucking face with a lacrosse player....

    I cant win, why do all the kids that play sports get all the girls?
    I need help.

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    Default Re: I can never win...

    What you need to do is find other types of girls, or do something just as, if not more attractive than playing a sport. The girls you are around are just fooling around, doing whatever with whoever because they can, with whoever is coolest at the time. you probably don't want a part of that anyway, too many feet have been in those socks.. If you want to find someone who is going to be genuine and not just make out with everything that can throw a ball you'll have to look somewhere else. Try places outside of your college circle, or try to find girls that aren't crazy party girls, in the end you'll find you get much more stable results. And more importantly don't get down on yourself, it's not you it's the girl, just refrain from those types of girls in the future or be more forward with them. Good luck.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: I can never win...

    "Thatoneguy" nailed it!!

    SOME girls are just attracted to certain types of guys... whether it be Athletes, Rock Stars, Actors, Business Entrepreneurs, etc.

    The thing is, those types of guys all have a couple things in common: Confidence & Alpha qualities.

    They exude an abundance attitude... meaning: they KNOW they can get lots of girls, so they don't worry about one particular chick. They're relaxed, calm & just do what they do.

    That's why girls seem to flock to them.

    They're sure of themselves & don't worry about what other people think about them.
    They don't usually try very hard to get women, which makes women chase them. (Women love a chase!!)

    They have a certain social status & everyone notices it.

    However; you don't have to be any of those above types to have that same ability.
    You just need to put in some effort.

    Read, study, learn & apply!


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    Default Re: I can never win...

    JBob, I'm gonna respectfully disagree with these guys. your game isn't tight enough. there should not be extended periods of time from when you begin your sarge to when she's ready to be buck naked. You are there with her and she is texting some guy, think about the problem with that situation. You need to work on your game. I'm guessing you really need to ramp up your attraction and seduction skills.

    if a woman is intrigued and turned on by you, she doesn't give a Damn if you play sports or dance ballet. most of the chicks I seduce don't know squat about me, other than I turn them on. improve your game.

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    Default Re: I can never win...

    You're going through this improvement phase , you'll get better at it eventually , you'll learn from mistakes . Move on , find a new girl to further improve yourself !

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    Default Re: I can never win...

    Thanks for the replies guys.

    But, you say girls like a chase? I thought we were suppose to approach them...

    Also, I am reading! But I dont know how build attraction more, or work on my game. My school is small, im not gonna start running lines on girls at school.

    It always seems that girls go to guys but I never have girls come to me. Like my friend I workout with (whose a tall good looking guy) always has girls going to him. Idk what he does.

    Any good reads on how to improve?

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    Default Re: I can never win...

    Kino - Very well put my friend.

    Those additional points were on the money.
    Nice!!


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    Default Re: I can never win...

    I agree with the above but tbh this girl sounds like a complete wanker anyway... I know that's not a great amount of comfort.

    Don't let it bother you, there are loads of other girls out there. For the future just work on your game like the others have said. Once you get good enough jocks won't be able to touch you.

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    Default Re: I can never win...

    Quote Originally Posted by sidewinder89 View Post
    I agree with the above but tbh this girl sounds like a complete wanker anyway... I know that's not a great amount of comfort.

    Don't let it bother you, there are loads of other girls out there. For the future just work on your game like the others have said. Once you get good enough jocks won't be able to touch you.
    I want to be that good! But idk how, what to read, or where to practice. I know i need to work on my inner game cause I have some confidence issues probably because I was short my whole freakin life and looked like a 14 year old my senior year of highschool because I didnt hit puberty till that summer...

    Any good reads for inner game? Right now I am just stating the tao of badass.

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    Default Re: I can never win...

    The Tao of Badass is one of my faves!
    (I have that in MP3 format as well & listened to it countless times!)

    There's a part where Joshua says something like:
    "If I give you a map that tells you where to find a million dollars, do you have a million dollars? NO.. you have knowledge of where a million dollars is, but unless you APPLY it, you'll never have the million dollars."

    But overall, the T.O.B. is largely based on self-improvement/psychology & confidence.

    As far as WHERE to practice? I'd say, "everywhere".
    The grocery store, the gas station, at work/school, bars/clubs, library, coffee shops...etc.

    Age, height, weight, or "looks otherwise" is not a factor.
    Neither is money, or athletic ability.

    I'm 42, and average looks/height/weight/build.
    I'm damn near broke because of child support payments from 2 failed marriages.

    Yet, when I started going out & trying the techniques I had been learning, I hooked up with several girls with ease.

    A couple of them had LOTS of money.... Some who were 20 years younger than I am, some were a couple years older, and some within a couple years either way of my age.)

    They didn't care that I wasn't Tall, buff & modelesque.
    They didn't care that I was struggling to make rent money...

    So, neither did I.

    Confidence is definitely important.
    And the best way to build confidence, is to go out & get experience.

    Whether you have "success" or you "crash & burn", you'll start to realize that it's not as frightening or difficult as you originally thought it would be.

    THEN... it becomes FUN!


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