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Thread: Text help please...what to do now?

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    Default Text help please...what to do now?

    Ok,
    So I met this chick on POF and got her # after exchanging a few messages. Then instead of texting her I just skipped all that B.S and called her up and scheduled a short coffee date at this great place I know called starbucks.

    A day before we were scheduled to meet I texted her telling her that if we were going to meet I need her real name. Anyway she gave me her name and then cancelled the date with some lame excuse.

    So I did what most self respecting men would do and proceeded to act like I was dead, forgetting about her meaningless existence.

    Fast forward to yesterday, (1 month later). She texts me with a standard "hey there, how are you?" in the mid evening.

    So I replied : "Awesome, I just got back, how are you?"
    (a couple hours later as I was busy when she texted me)

    reply: "Got back from.........?"

    (I think this is one of the bigger mistakes I made right here below)

    Me: "From going to the gym, and then frolicking around the town just following my nose, and then I met up with my friend (name) for some sushi and some beers.......and now I am back here"

    No reply
    so then I texted her a question about how something I know she does is going with a funner zinger type question about it attached to the which I will omit the details on.

    No reply

    Normally this would not get to me however this one is very intelligent and has the ability to get a very high paying job, and is also pretty slammin according to her numerous pics. So I wanted to giver her one more chance.
    Questions:

    1. Why did she bother to text me again after all that time just to not reply?
    2. I think I went wrong with the way i elaborated on my day what do you think?
    3. Is this Salvageable? If so what is the best coarse of action?

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    Default Re: Text help please...what to do now?

    Please don't double post my good sir...
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    Default Re: Text help please...what to do now?

    I apologize meant to edit some grammer, but I guess it double posted somehow....any advice here?

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    Default Re: Text help please...what to do now?

    1 - Sometimes girls just want to shit-chat.
    2 - None of your texts were mind blowing. You haven't appealed for her emotions.
    3 - Everything's salvageable, however the amount of effort you gotta put on this one is so fucking big that it makes solving the Eurozone crisis a pretty easy task.

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    Default Re: Text help please...what to do now?

    thanks...That is what I was expecting to here, and I am going to lose her # now as she was clearly wasting my time in the 1st place

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    Default Re: Text help please...what to do now?

    All is forgiven. Now that the matter is over, time for your advice. At a first glance, one instinct tells me that she was bored and just looking for someone to talk to. She just happened to find your number in the back of her phone so she decided to hit you up. This is possible.

    It also may be possible that she did actually want to talk to you. She started thinking about you and she really wanted to try and take a second shot at you.

    Either way, your response should have been the same: make it hard for her. She duped you and then all of a sudden comes out of the clear blue to try and hit you up for one of the two following reasons. Either way, you are the backup man. You are who she went to once all of her other fun options expired. Don't be the backup plan. I hate it when people make me their backup plan or use me, and when I figure it out, I slam them down immediately and make it soundly clear that they wronged me. Of course this is with people I know. Strangers like her you shouldn't be so viscous on.

    Anyways, that last double text you sent was pretty bad. I definitely would have left out the frolicking part. However, you did make very good use of the hangers, and that drew her into the conversation a bit. Now, your best bet is to just law off. Give her the impression that you're not interested, and that if she wants to get at you, she's going to have to work for it.

    In the meantime, why not hit up some other ladies. It will certainly help your mindset when it comes to this situation
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    Default Re: Text help please...what to do now?

    yes thank you for this,

    I am nobody's backup plan, my only regret is sending those douchey texts instead of smiting her right then and there, and now unfortunately it is too late to do that effectively.

    So I am going to the library right now to go talk to some more ladies.

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    Default Re: Text help please...what to do now?

    Atta boy! Although the text messages were bad, don't worry about it, at least you learned from it. In the future, if and when this situation ever comes around again, you'll know what to do
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