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Thread: Why did she lie to me?

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    Default Why did she lie to me?

    Hey people, new to the forum here, but looking to stay since there are quite a few helpful threads and discussions here!

    I have a question as to why this girl lied (I am pretty sure) to me, if I did the right thing, and what I should do the next time I see/talk to her.

    First some background info: we are in university, we have a class together, we texted for a few days beforehand, we were both initiating conversations, I did push/pull and teased her, she always responded immediately.

    Now the incident:

    • We were supposed to get together today to study for one exam we have together. It's a group thing from the get go, so I didn't really care if she showed up or not.


    • When I texted her about 15 minutes before the meeting time, and she told me that she forgot, and that she have an exam tomorrow.


    • Now she told me her exam schedule before, which didn't have one tomorrow.


    • She said she was sorry, I replied like it's no big deal, and she said again, that she was sorry.


    I wasn't going to make a big deal out of this. But I don't understand why she had to lie to me about having an exam tomorrow when it's really not that big of deal. She also acted like she is very sorry for such a insignificant thing?

    Did I do things right with my response? How should I react the next time I text her/she texts me, or I see her at the exam in 2 days? Should I make her feel guilty? Should I act like I don't care? Should I call her out? Should I tease her and tell her she owes me a drink?

    Thanks in advance, I know it's a long post. I can give more details as well if you need it.

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    Default Re: Why did she lie to me?

    Could be one of many reasons, the worst one being she didnt really want to spend time with u today. Or, may be her schedule really changed. Why fret over it ? If you have been going through threads here, you'd know how neediness turns women off. Enjoy your own life, and keep your options open - dont get hung up on one girl so soon. Dont go licking her ass, and you might have a chance.

    Quote Originally Posted by mc12 View Post
    Hey people, new to the forum here, but looking to stay since there are quite a few helpful threads and discussions here!

    I have a question as to why this girl lied (I am pretty sure) to me, if I did the right thing, and what I should do the next time I see/talk to her.

    First some background info: we are in university, we have a class together, we texted for a few days beforehand, we were both initiating conversations, I did push/pull and teased her, she always responded immediately.

    Now the incident:

    • We were supposed to get together today to study for one exam we have together. It's a group thing from the get go, so I didn't really care if she showed up or not.


    • When I texted her about 15 minutes before the meeting time, and she told me that she forgot, and that she have an exam tomorrow.


    • Now she told me her exam schedule before, which didn't have one tomorrow.


    • She said she was sorry, I replied like it's no big deal, and she said again, that she was sorry.


    I wasn't going to make a big deal out of this. But I don't understand why she had to lie to me about having an exam tomorrow when it's really not that big of deal. She also acted like she is very sorry for such a insignificant thing?

    Did I do things right with my response? How should I react the next time I text her/she texts me, or I see her at the exam in 2 days? Should I make her feel guilty? Should I act like I don't care? Should I call her out? Should I tease her and tell her she owes me a drink?

    Thanks in advance, I know it's a long post. I can give more details as well if you need it.

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    Default Re: Why did she lie to me?

    Holy questions. Well, reading through this, here goes my input on all of your following:

    Quote Originally Posted by mc12 View Post
    Did I do things right with my response?
    Yes. You kept your cool and passed her off. It was a very wise idea to not explode on her, or otherwise that would have shown you as immature and needy. Women do not like either of these things.

    Quote Originally Posted by mc12 View Post
    How should I react the next time I text her/she texts me, or I see her at the exam in 2 days?
    Don't text her. Because she blew you off, you're now giving her the cold shoulder. If she's interested, then she'll try to pursue you. Otherwise, don't even bother with trying to start up a conversation with her.

    If she does talk to you, or you do see her in public, act like nothing is wrong. Put on the air that you know you're going to do great on that test, but don't directly brag about it. You can subtly drop hints like the following:

    "You know, I was having a ton of trouble with A and B, but after a bit, I finally figured it out, and I'm pretty sure it's going to be on the test, so I'm glad I went over it."

    In relation to the question below this, here is your guilt trip. Your sheer level of confidence will show, and she will admire it and wish that she had worked with you. And if she didn't study, this will work even more in your advantage.

    Quote Originally Posted by mc12 View Post
    Should I make her feel guilty?
    No. To do it seriously will make you look like an ass. To not do it seriously and to try and joke around with her about it will make you look like you are too attached to the issue and you're just an airhead. And definitely don't brag about doing better than her. Women don't like a bragger. Refer to the question above if you want to make her regret blowing you off.

    Quote Originally Posted by mc12 View Post
    Should I act like I don't care?
    Yes. Treat it as if she was insignificant to your success either way. You simply invited her to study and get better. She didn't want to? Fine, you did, and now you're better because of it. She wasn't in it? Too farking bad, she shouldn't have blown you off.

    Quote Originally Posted by mc12 View Post
    Should I call her out?
    No, at least if you're still interested in her. The best thing to do is to just drop the subject completely. Do not bring it back up, and do not try to make it a point to call her out for it. Referring to the earlier questions, you can make her regret not coming with you, but do not directly bring up the study plans.

    Quote Originally Posted by mc12 View Post
    Should I tease her and tell her she owes me a drink?
    Maybe, but I wouldn't do it. If you're trying to move on from the subject, then you shouldn't bring it up. However, you can turn the results of the test into a bet if you so desire. Given the fact you did actually study for it, you are bound to do better than her. Either way, though, it will amount to a decent idea.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Why did she lie to me?

    even if she didnt have the exam tomorrow, she could've just used that as an excuse to study for her other exams, i wouldn't be concerned or want to know her schedule cause things change alot (mine do and i expect others to do so aswell) so its one less thing to dwell on

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    Default Re: Why did she lie to me?

    Simply make a mental note of it and move on. If other stuff comes up that you notice then you'll know she's a compulsive liar and shouldn't take her seriously, but only for fun. Bringing her attention to it will only teach her to hide stuff better. Let her dig herself into a hole.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Why did she lie to me?

    Personally I think your blowing it out of proportion. She is not your girlfriend. Maybe she did have an exam, maybe she was hung over, maybe she didn't feel like studying.

    Don't call her out. The bit about "you owing me a drink" is good.

    Have you asked this chick out yet. Not to study one on one, but out for a date? Your into her. If she is not into you the same way, her loss. Your in College you can't tell me there are not 100's of young, perky, flirty girls around.

    Don't text her, unless she texts you. Then wait to respond, like a few hours. When you do respond, open the text with "Hey just got your message, phone was off,.blah, blah, blah.."

    Your the prize dude.


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