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    Default Re: Meeting with a girl.... what should i do?

    on this website, there's a search button to find things like that by ie putting "frame" into the search and seeing what comes up

    http://www.puaforums.com/game/17574-...e-control.html

    theres another one relating to frames too, search is ur best friend :>

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    Default Re: Meeting with a girl.... what should i do?

    you guys are awesome. thanks all who provided help.

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    Default Re: Meeting with a girl.... what should i do?

    IF you are at that level, I would suggest reading on frame control but don't dwell on it too much at this point. Frame control takes a lot of confidence and sure fire walking power. You need to focus on kino, but more importantly...your number one goal needs to be to keep your composer so you can be light and fun.

    Basically you need to learn to not deal with your nervousness
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    Default Re: Meeting with a girl.... what should i do?

    blistex frame control is something you can't ignore imo, it's better to get developed sooner rather than later, while kinos important it can wait

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    Default Re: Meeting with a girl.... what should i do?

    Quote Originally Posted by hyp View Post
    blistex frame control is something you can't ignore imo, it's better to get developed sooner rather than later, while kinos important it can wait
    I'm not debating the importance of frame control, but rather the difficulty level. For a person that is so unsure of themselves they post such a broad question over a simple meeting with a girl...well I really don't think they are going to be able to grasp the whole concept, so they should focus on making themselves comfortable around women first.

    It is worth reading and working on like everything else, but its level of importance is paramount to its level of difficulty in the way material is ranked throughout the PUA community. I don't think our arguing is going to help this guy though, we could take this debate to PM if you would like as it seems pretty interesting. I would also love to here an AllStar's opinion on this one
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    Default Re: Meeting with a girl.... what should i do?

    I read the guide on Frame Control. And the basic premise is being the one who drives the conversation. I have some experience in that from public speaking.

    The challenge I've been having is not knowing where to drive the conversation so that she'd be more attracted to me. How did you guys overcome this?

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    Default Re: Meeting with a girl.... what should i do?

    just to be clear from these last few posts on it has no relation to giving advice on your simple meeting with "a girl" it's gone off on a large tangent haha

    well you can intentionally structure a conversation to flow where you want it to go (ie leading) and then start talking about whatever it is you want to, after a while it becomes second nature, having said this, i noticed it happening alot more when i was extremely comfortable with women, not just a bit

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    Default Re: Meeting with a girl.... what should i do?

    You need to not worry about controling the flow to make her more attracted. If you do a lot of public speaking then I assume you are familiar with the basics of posture and body language. Use that. Use your eyes, those things will drive attraction.

    As far as the conversation itself, try to steer clear of things like:

    Problems she may be having
    Other guys she is seeing
    Her ex

    Those are kind of cues that she is crazy if she is talking about them right off the bat. Here ARE a few basic things to get your started though.

    If you find yourself thinking about what to say next while she is talking then you aren't listening to her. You need to keep the conversation flowing more so than anything. Think about the last time you had a great conversation with everyone...do you remember every single thing that was said? Of course not, and neither will either one of you. Some things will be memorable. If you can there is a PUA named Gambit with a guide on natural game. He has some good stuff on relating emotionally as well. I have used it pretty heavily in my almost non-existent game.

    Also, if she starts bringing up negative subjects, touch on it lightly to let her know its okay to talk to you about anything, but quickly shift away.

    Honestly...I said a few things but I think the paragraph above has a ton to it and can keep you going in conversation for a while.
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    Default Re: Meeting with a girl.... what should i do?

    Frame control must be solid but to me its all about the character your being.it should be masked with alpha masculine qualities.then comes your mindset behind the interaction.

    if you're flirting you may take a dominant frame.you then control this frame with a character.just don't get stuck in it too long.

    e.g the guy who is always screening.(has few standards that must be met)
    think how he would react in certain situation.
    like she spills her food.
    she doesn't like say cheese
    etc.
    these are a few ways to tease her.remember playful and fun the whole time.teasing/flirting and being mean are different things


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