So this girl has been somewhat inconsistent. Granted she recently broke up from a 5 year relationship, and is working crazy hours for the next few weeks (graveyard shift, 12 hour shifts, only one day a week).
We have a good rapport, flirty, sexual tension, etc.... I even did a pretty big favor for her because she was in desperation ( not really AFC, more like... she's a human being and it would be fucked up if I didnt do this for her). But when I asked for a similar favor....she was too busy to fully follow through. When I asked to hang out....she is way too tired and barely has time to do laundry and run errands.
She could tell I was frustrated and asked me if I was. I said simple "yes". She then freaked out and asked "How can I fix it?". I then said lets hang out. She replied that it will be difficult until she gets off this crazy schedule. So I just said" Ok . well im heading out to the city. I have to go." She said have fun and i ended it with a joke to show I wasnt faded by her mini-resistance.
I am freezing her out now and its been a few days. Now I am wondering if I should call her out on her overall flakiness and say something to the effect of "Hey. you seemed genuinely concerned that I was frustrated with you. I do want you to do something about it, but before you fix anything , I think you should know where the frustration stems from. " Then proceed to tell her that I dont want someone close in my life that asks me for a big favor but doesnt show the same level of respect when I need someone to help me out, and that I dont want her to be one of those people in my life. But I am hesitant with this because it may come off as needy and emotional (especially since it was a month ago), but I do feel I need to set boundaries with her.
Or should I continue to freeze her out until she comes to me with a solution?
Mind you, this is the kind of girl that likes to be told what to do and likes a guy who sets up boundaries.