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    burmballgee is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default So once someone begins PUA techniques, start fresh or old friends?

    Love the stuff that I'm reading here, and I hope that I'm posting this in the right thread...

    My name is Nick and I'm 31. I'm in a band, play guitar, trumpet and sing, I surf and I'd like to think that I'm a reasonably well adjusted fellow. About 6 months ago, I got out of the most serious relationship that I've had, to date. It wasn't a very long relationship but it almost broke me. It's taken me quite some time to get over it but I'm ready to float around and take what's mine.

    Here's my question, since I'm new to all of this, does it mean that I should start fresh with women I don't know or can I raid my "friends" that I've never really put the moves on? Does a pre-existing friendship mean that they'll see through things that the "new" Nick is trying? Does it matter? Are there any techniques that are better suited for old friends as opposed to new ones? I'm low on cash right now so the bar doesn't really work that well for me but I have a phone that already has a bunch of numbers in it...

    Either way, I'm motivated and smarter than most folks so I don't see myself being unsuccessful. What do y'all think?

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    Default Re: So once someone begins PUA techniques, start fresh or old friends?

    The very first crowd I started working my PUA on for the most part were my friends. This worked because they were already familiar with me, and their defenses were down. I actually got to a point where one of my friends had a boyfriend and she was flirting with me. I stopped because at the time it was not my intention to destroy any relationships.

    The only negative to this was if someone you already knew had a solid assumption about you, there was no way you could break it without some serious interaction. I had tried working some game with this one girl before, but it wasn't until last night when I saw her in the store that I finally got her flirting with me. It is frustrating though to deal with those warts that won't go away. As I have come to learn, though, they either go away or you just forget about them all together.

    Although it is alright to flirt with friends, don't forget about strangers and new targets. Your friend circle is only so large, and approaching and conversing with a new crowd can really help.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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