So, the community has great stuff to offer for approach/seduction, and 1 or 2 good products for keeping a GF.
What seems to be sorely missing is early relationship building and damage control. I'm certain most guys who practice at all get plenty of day 2s, but SOMEHOW 2nd and 3rd dates are fairly scarce. I've gone out with at least 20 women in past year, and only 4 went past the first date!!! What's so frustrating is I usually have no idea why! She'll just go dark on texts and calls...which I don't need to say is the most irritating thing...and they all seem to love doing it.
I get that it all boils down not just to things going smoothly, but building enough sexual tension and intrigue that she just has to see you again....push/pull, tease, banter, etc. I'm not bad at comfort building and geting sexual quickly. I'm very sexually confident, I'm decent looking and even have a good job for Christ's sake! lol By all rights I should have no problems, but it seems like the ones I like I don't see again, and the ones I'm not all that into I sleep with right away.
I think women have so many options these days with internet dating etc. that they have trouble making any choices at all, and will drop a guy cold over the littlest thing. It would make sense if they did want you to succeed (as coaches profess) but all evidents points to the contrary. They're looking out for a reason to disqualify you like hawks. Thats plainly obvious.
There's certainly a correlation between extent of sexual progress and probability of seeing her again, but its non-linear. If you have sex on date 1, your very likely to see her again. But if you have a heavy makeout session, it seems like your less likely to see her again than if you only kiss once to say goodnight. So I just try for sex everytime now. But that's not how most dates end up, and anyone who says otherwise, I have al lot of trouble believing. Maybe guys in New York can plan the perfect ways to wind up at your place, but even though this is standard advice, most people don't live close enough to dating locals to work that angle. So if she's not down to do it in a car or go home with you to "watch a movie", your sh1t out of luck.
...maybe that was a slight tangent, my bad.
So, what I'm looking for is effective ways to ensure a continuing relationship during and after day 2, and any ways especially ways to get her attention back after a good but maybe not spectacular 1st date. In short date 1 damage control.
Thanks for indulging my ranting and raving!
and for any sage advice you can give or recommended materials that may cover this subject I'm not aware of.
(the only one I'm familiar with is "Girlfriend Training" by Xuma).