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    FunDanceMan is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default They keep calling like crazy: Will it lose attraction?

    Two girls I know keep calling me like crazy. Its not for an emergency. It's just to talk and chat. I can always make a girl laugh, have a good time, and be flirty.

    But after a while (like calling everyday) doesnt that just start to kill attraction? You have to constantly keep thinknig of new material and they just get used to you.

    Its not that I dont have the time to talk, its just Im worried that eventually itll fizzle out. I like it when I cna talk to a girl like once or twice a week and it feels electric each time. Has anyone had a similar problem?

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    Default Re: They keep calling like crazy: Will it lose attraction?

    Talking on the phone is OKAY, but you need to limit it. You need to try setting up meets with them. Just flat out tell them you like talking on the phone, but its required you see them in real life too, if they just want to constantly chat on the phone they have their girlfriends for that.

    If you do give them that last little bit about "they have their girlfriends for that", they will get mad and call you an asshole. Don't back down and hold your frame. "You are not an asshole, you just don't care to put that much time and energy talking to a girl who you never see"

    Good luck man

    DISCLAIMER: You may loose them with this one, so be prepared. It will surely piss them off a bit, but in my experience they get over it
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    Default Re: They keep calling like crazy: Will it lose attraction?

    I can see how that can get annoying... Not only is it like you have to entertain them, but you are just like, "what is the end game here?"

    I would just tell them you are busy... Say, hey, I can't chat chit right now but let's meet up Friday night at ______.

    It's an easy transition into setting something up.

    Don't become their phone buddy. As Blistex said, she got girlfriends for that...

    If they aren't your girlfriend, you don't need to be on the phone all the time.


    And if you push back a little, they may want you just a little more and chase after something else (maybe)... Or they may go crazier. You never know with girls.

    Turn it into a hang out set up.

    Or, if you do hang out with them anyway, and they call you all the time regardless, you may have some stage 5 clingers on your hand... Then I would go with the let her down easy approach as Blistex mentioned, tell her she has girlfriends to chat with

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    Default Re: They keep calling like crazy: Will it lose attraction?

    Thank you guys for some proper, detailed, and smart responses. Those two posts above this are probably the best replies Ive gotten using this site.
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    One of them I cant see for 3 months, so it makes things harder and more challenging. I'm more cautious these days and just know it may not work out. I still like the one that I cant see for another 3 month, much more than the other. Personality and lookswise.


    I gave in and called her for a little. Texted her after too. The strange thing was that: it felt like the smart thing to do because she said she really loves talking to me. She may be a low confidence dork girl, so Im not sure if thats what she needs or if it just brings me closer to the friend zone.


    Hard to tell because some girls, it makes them realize its not just for sex. Other times, most times, its almost like a DLV that you talk to her that much and arent busy talking to other chicks.


    Either way I gotta push away a little. Its really a challenge I never found myself in. When they call and text you, it puts the ball in your hand. I thought texting only every 3 days was the norm! X(

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    Default Re: They keep calling like crazy: Will it lose attraction?

    if it puts you at ease i'm almost about to drop one of my chicks for this very reason, real life > virtual, no way i'm gonna be texting for "long periods" without meeting up, it's pointless unless ur looking to gain experience or experiment with stuff

    I thought texting only every 3 days was the norm! X(
    theres no set "norm" for texting, mine is usually once or twice a day

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    Default Re: They keep calling like crazy: Will it lose attraction?

    Woah man i kinda agree with those before me but these girls seem to like you.
    You need to stop worrying about content and then close them if you haven't.or else one of these days if the girls really really come to like you and you do not push things forward your value may drop fast.plus you seem to like them so yh.
    Whenever you have got their attention and they seem engaged just escalate!!Peace.

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    Default Re: They keep calling like crazy: Will it lose attraction?

    Yep its a trip.



    New thought:
    Do you think a call every 3 days is good? What if they keep calling should I just ignore it?

    I mean maybe I can do the ignore and call every 3 days. Or everytime she calls, I pick up but make it short and go.

    Im not sure which is best and which would kill or amplify attraction more.

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    Default Re: They keep calling like crazy: Will it lose attraction?

    Escalation is a vital step in the attraction ramp.The best way is to change the dynamics.why?you are probably feeling weird because of the tension in the relation which is good but trust me at least make it your goal to use your humour to attract a few girls this week.kiss them, move on..call your girls in the middle of the week ask them to come over and do something engaging(playing pool, getting drinks.etc)with you or go to go for a long short walk somewhere.then kiss them.you may may update this thread.

    if you are going to practice this its best to keep moving things forward..the girls are not just calling you to chat, but subliminally they kind of like you.don't become the funny joke friend.you don't sound like one.


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