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    Default Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?

    So sh1t may have hit the fan a bit...

    1. She had her prom yesterday (went stag) and met someone there she liked. My sister (we have a very close relationship) said they just talked but hit it off pretty well.

    2. We were supposed to meet up today but she flaked. I texted her if she was there yet, she said she 'forgot to tell me she had to help organize her mom's concert '.

    We are going to meet up sometime before the party this week to sort out all the details. Do I need to adjust my strategy?

    Here's what I'm planning on doing...
    -not bring up prom (don't want her to think about the other guy)
    -drop SOI's, escalate KINO (frisbee if she has time)
    -get her to emotionally invest, etc.

    With this new player in the field should I be accelerating?

    Should I ask her out earlier in the week or at the party? I just don't want her to say no at our first meet and have the party be awkward for her.

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    Default Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?

    Oy guys guys guys...

    I know I'm a little late to this party but listen to yourselves. I see a lot of 'maybe' advice. Nothing here stands out as particularly bold or alpha.

    Main thing here... you are not assuming attraction. Your sister prob already told her for one thing. So just go with it. Your not trying to coerce her lol. Your goal is to be Alpha. Everything else will fall into place after that.

    Dont get hung up on things like her BF or anything. Just keep escalating. Assume you are more alpha than the BF. It will give you a proper mindset.

    But most of all ... be BOLD. 50 shades of grey??? You should have gone right into talking about sex. No brainer! If she brought it up, its possible she was thinking about sex on some level. Always take note of cues like this!

    Cuz its your sisters friend, you must notlet that hold you back. It can be tricky of course. But if you dont feel comfortable with being bold then maybe you need to improve your game with other girls before you attempt this challenge.
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    Default Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?

    Agreed with above my advise still stand take the sister's friend thing out of equation it is going to make you play it too cautiously and eff it up
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.

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    Default Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    Oy guys guys guys...

    I know I'm a little late to this party but listen to yourselves. I see a lot of 'maybe' advice. Nothing here stands out as particularly bold or alpha.

    Main thing here... you are not assuming attraction. Your sister prob already told her for one thing. So just go with it. Your not trying to coerce her lol. Your goal is to be Alpha. Everything else will fall into place after that.

    Dont get hung up on things like her BF or anything. Just keep escalating. Assume you are more alpha than the BF. It will give you a proper mindset.

    But most of all ... be BOLD. 50 shades of grey??? You should have gone right into talking about sex. No brainer! If she brought it up, its possible she was thinking about sex on some level. Always take note of cues like this!

    Cuz its your sisters friend, you must notlet that hold you back. It can be tricky of course. But if you dont feel comfortable with being bold then maybe you need to improve your game with other girls before you attempt this challenge.
    May sound a bit beta but my sister and I have a very close relationship. If she says she didn't tell her then I believe her. I guess because I know that she hasn't kissed anyone before, never had a BF, etc. that I don't want to come on too strong.

    Quote Originally Posted by hometownextra View Post
    Agreed with above my advise still stand take the sister's friend thing out of equation it is going to make you play it too cautiously and eff it up
    Good point. When I think back, I've been playing it a bit too beta with her lack of experience and the friendship with my sister may be holding me back.

    Would the strategy I outlined above work or should I adjust and take more risks.

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    Default Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?

    It's been long enough. Have you been keeping in contact with her? You should have pushed for a meetup a long time ago via text or on the phone. Ultimately the problem here sounds like oneitis. Keep talking to other girls my friend and don't get yourself caught up on this one.

    2 things you must do now or forever hold your peace:
    -Take risk
    -Invite her out someplace

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    Default Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?

    We've been texting pretty every few days. Going to meet up with her on Tuesday and will see her at the party again on Saturday. I plan to ask her out on Saturday.

    I guess I do have a bit of oneitis so I might as well get it over with rather than dragging it out.

    Thanks for the advice

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    Default Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?

    I like it! That's one way to deal with oneitis. Some people just play it safe not wanting to get their feelings hurt. At the very least go for it and get over your case of oneitis. From then on don't leave this forum. Use it to better yourself and to teach yourself about the different aspects of pickup, and apply those to your everyday life.

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    Default Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?

    Failure is bad but far better teacher than success
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.

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    Default Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?

    You could have easily have gotten into sexual talk with 50 shades of grey. You could have teased her for being a kind of kinky or a little taboo, with the right deliverance of course. Also, don't assume she's too shy to go in for a kiss or have sex. I was with this girl about a month ago and everyone said she was kind of shy or reserved, not the case at ALL! I was kind of being a wuss (like you, no offense) and not really escalating; it turns out she wanted to have sex with me from the first time she saw me.

    The second night of meeting her, she was ripping my clothes off

    I'm kind of new here too, but the advice I received has been invaluable. Sometimes, the guys on here can be rough, but it's for your own good. Be bold, be Alpha and most importantly have confidence.

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    Default Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?

    Quick update.

    Just wanted to get some pointers on my texts and if I'm headed in the right direction or if it's more towards the friendzone..

    Me: Yeah at least I won't be sort though haha
    Her: haha true I'm sore
    Me: It seems like we're taking turns being sore haha, like sore all over?
    Her: haha true nah just my knees.
    Me: Well I have the perfect solution. Get a bath going, put some salts in, pop on some jack johnson and relax. My personal guarantee you'll feel amazing after
    Her: That's what Jeff said too! but I promised my pal I would walk around with her
    Me: Well you can always do it after. Who's Jeff?
    Her: My boyfriend duh. nah just kidding my stepdad.
    Me: You don't have a boyfriend? I assumed a girl like you would have one
    Her: nah I'm kinda social awkward.
    Me: You're fine with me. Maybe we're both socially awkward then haha. We'll have to work on a boyfriend for you then

    No response after this but I sent it a few hours later and she probably went to bed.


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