Re: Need advice ASAP - How to escalate for sister's best friend?
Just like what the poster above me said: You told your sister about her, her sister will most likely tell the girl your interest... I mean they're best friends. It's a given.
If she's going out with you to meet up with this information than she has no objections. This girl is for the taking.
In my book you have done the right thing in a sense and that is making the interaction personal between you two. The next step is to make the interaction sexual. Failing this will shoot you into that dreaded place called the Friend Zone.
You're worried about her being shy in the sense that anything that over the top in a sexual sense will scare her off. That's not the attitude you want. You want to be unapologetic about everything you do from the way you touch her to the confidence you have.
The thing about girls whether they are shy or confident is that they want to feel sexy and they want validation from men. The best way to do is to get her to invest and reward her with either relating what she said to your own life or make her feel her sexy.
You're planning to do a party, you already have something that you can reward her in... her sense of style or the way she can organise a party. Here's a simple example of how you can escalate the interaction.
You're discussing the party and she comes up with a great idea and you like the idea (you should have your own opinions, don't be a kiss up, if you don't like the idea you should disqualify yourself, just be honest) this is a simple SOI reward: "wow, not only are you sexy but that was really creative, Its refreshing finding someone with good creativity".
On the flip side, if she does something silly or makes up something dumb you can easily tease her. Teasing and flirting will create attraction and it should be done playfully and quite frequently. You can tease her about her shyness, the fact she's best friends with your sister. There's about a million things.
At the party you can lead her into isolation and take the relationship to kissing and maybe even sex if she's willing. Simple way to do this is to say you want to talk to her alone, take her hand and get talking and bomb in an SOI for the kiss. "It was awesome in the way WE made this party happen, I mean I'm having a fun time and you're such an awesome person that I'm seriously thinking about kissing you right now" If she says no don't react bitter. Keep it playful and that it is no big deal. Tease her on the shyness again.
This should be easy as cake but don't go in with an agenda, just live in the moment and go with the flow. I would wish you luck but luck is for losers and no one on this forum should be a loser :P
P.S. That 50 shades of grey could have easily made the interaction sexual because the whole book is about sex. It's a great way to escalate the interaction.
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