I just spent the whole weekend chasing a girl who I thought was keen to hookup but got rejected in the end. I've always had some natural talent at picking up girls but never knew how deep the rabbit hole was. I made a multitude of mistakes on this girl and I think my story is a good one to help learn or point out some obvious mistakes I made and I hope someone can help point out the none obvious and give tips for the next time to better my approach strategies.
The girl just moved in with one of my best mates and currently has long distance relationship with a fella that calls her every night with jealous accusations and is generally not going well between them.
We met up on Friday night, got drunk and went out camping and fishing all night with 4 people. 3 guys. At first she paid no interest to me and I gave her very little attention too. When we finally had some alone time next to the fire, we got on like a house on fire and she was fully attentive and made almost constant eye contact and constant smiles and laughs.
It was a big night and we ended back up at their house in the morning and spent the day vegeing out and me sneaking off with her to her room to smoke joints throughout the day. We continued to get on well and were flirting a lot. I caught many signals from her. Come Saturday night, we're all chilling out watching movies half passed out. When she gets up to go to her room she stops, looks at me, and waves with a big smile. Normally I would have jumped at this sign but as exhausted as we were I simply smiled back and fell asleep.
Sunday morning the girl and I went shopping to get breakfast together. Things still seemed great between us as we cooked breakfast together even though I had diced an obvious offer the night before. The flirtations continued as they had. She went to work in the early afternoon and I went home and cleaned up and came back to hang out with my mate the rest of the day.
That night my mate had a date to go to at 6:30, and his housemate got home at around 6:15. I was in the room with her having a smoke when my mate comes in and says he's leaving. At that moment I noticed a slightly alarming look on her face and she asked if I was going to. I said I'd stay if she didn't mind but was halfway out the door to move my car for him before she got to answer.
I go back inside after my mate's left and the girl seems to be a little on edge at me still being there. So we go out the front balcony with her laptop and a beer and keep talking for a short while before she asks me if I was alright to drive home. I respond by asking her if she wanted me to go and she answers "well that would be rude to say." At this point I'm outta of time and have missed ample opportunity to kiss her so ask her if I can kiss her then. She replies "you can, but I'd slap you in the face." (I do realize now that both of those questions I asked were probably a Huge no no)
I get up and grab my things and as I'm leaving I tell her thanks for the weed, next time I'll shout the smoke. She runs up to me and gives me a massive hug without saying anything and I left.
Now I'm confused.. I didn't show her any sign of being affected at all by the rejection even though it hurt. I don't know if I should have another go next weekend or if I've been already categorized as the dreaded "friends only" for failing to take the initiative on her earlier offers. I certainly won't call her this week for fear she may take this as a sign of desperation(I'm not, I just liked her a lot).
I won't get hung up on her at all if there's no chance left anymore for us to hook up. I don't know now though cause I took the rejection as a hard rejection at first but when she rushed to me to hug me as I was leaving I think it was more of a light rejection or something wasn't right in her head at that point in time or I failed to make a move quickly enough or if the lame ass question "can i kiss you" ruined it all.
I'm unsure at this point to call her in a week or two or leave things be. I will surely see her again at some point no matter cause she lives with a best mate of mine. Sorry about the long winded story guys/girls and I would be highly appreciative if one of you "pro's" could shed some light on the situation and give me advice for next time I see her or end up in a similar situation.
Rhino from Down-Under.