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    Default Is she into me or am I being fooled again?

    (This will be long winded but I had a bad experience my last time and want to avoid that again so thank you!)

    First off just to set up my side of things Im a 22 year old thin guy who has been called "a heartbreaker" by a decent amount of girls, when I asked one why she called me that she said "Just look at you, you look great" so I assume Im good looking lol, I also consider myself a pretty funny guy. The reason Im asking this is because I waited too long with the last girl and DO NOT want to do that again. So getting your opinions will make this easier . Ok now that you know who I am...

    (This will be long =p)

    I have a friend in the Marines who was down for the week, so when I went to meet him and his wife I dressed nice and headed out. Little did I know he brought his friend(the girl Im asking about) along so I saw her for literally one second, gave her a polite handshake and said "nice to meet you". Then we all went to a restaurant together where she was sitting next to me and everytime she would laugh she would be all over me.

    Later that night they were all going to a salsa club where she kept asking "youre going right? you should go", I wasnt expecting the club and cannot salsa dance for jack so I said perhaps. My friend however told me "Dude she wants you to go Ill even cover the entrance fee for you" and practically gave me the green light. While at the club she was pretty much in my ear the whole time she wasnt dancing, if she had to say something 95% of the time I was the only one she told, even over her best friend(my Marine friend). Also I by far danced with her the most that night, I didnt want to dance and embarrass myself but she kept grabbing my hand and leading me out. When I said I wish I knew how to salsa dance she offered to teach me and we exchanged #s. So the night ends, everyones leaving she shakes her best friend and my other friends hands, and gives me a hug and kiss on the cheek.

    Fast forward to one week later. We planned to go out to boomers together just to hang out and get a feel for each other I guess(It felt ALMOST like a first date lol), throughout the night she was very touchy feely as was I, Id have my hand on the small of her back a lot, shed hold my wrist and if we high fived wed hold hands for like 2 seconds longer and she was also laughing throughout the night and just having a good time . She destroyed me at mini-golf which was embarrassing(the wind was in my eyes ) but when we got to the go-karts she said if she wins, I have to buy her dinner to which I agreed. Needless to say I won but offered to pay for dinner anyways( I make $$ so its all good).

    Dinner went pretty good, we laughed, had a good time, told jokes, shared food and blah. Anyways by now its 12:40 and randomly she throws out "You know my curfew is 12:30 right? Thats when my dad wants me back, great first impression (my name)"(She said that in a flirty way lol) and I said something like "Why would you tell me something like that now?.. isnt it a little late?" She just laughed and said hes really relaxed and will be ok with it. Idk though lol.

    Anyways I dropped her off, talked to her for a min out of the car, gave her a solid hug and left. Now I was planning on texting her the next day saying I had a good time but she beat me to the punch, about 10 mins after I dropped her off I get a text from her reading "thank u :-) i really had a good time!" to which I responded in kind when I got home.

    I should also add that she asked if I was dating anyone and asked about my past girlfriends, and we were way way flirty with each other verbally as well as physically, from compliments to teasing. I know that when you compliment a girl not interested the make a polite "aww" or roll their eyes, but she seemed genuinely happy when I told her things like she didnt really need any make up or she had nice hair so yea..

    My question is, should I ask this girl out on a serious date and does it seem like she likes me or am I being fooled again? She wants me to come to her bday party(which isnt on her bday) at a club somewhere but I dont get payed until after it.. so I was thinking of taking her to dinner and a drink after instead(shes turning 21).

    So yea, lemme know if you think that this sounds good, would prefer not to have a repeat scenario of the last girl.

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    Default Re: Is she into me or am I being fooled again?

    Keep genuine as you are and progress onward if thats what you want to do....permission to engage granted?

    Only way I could see you getting fooled if she was asking for you to buy stuff with all your $$$ other than dinner and such.....but that doesnt sound like that case

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    Default Re: Is she into me or am I being fooled again?

    It seems she is pretty interested in you from what you are saying. It looks like being genuine is good for you. She likes it in you and sees it in you, so go for it. Why not? It can't hurt...

    The key is though you are in this puppy love stage so everything is exciting and it's great. But it can all change, and you have to keep this all in mind, because the more you know about a person, the more there is room for not being compatible.

    A lot of people make the mistake in holding onto the few good things about the other person or the 'eachother' when in turn there are signs everywhere indicating things are NOT going to work.

    I know it sounds pessimistic but I am just being realistic. People fall into this kind of trap all the time. I'm guilty of it myself. I've done it countless times.

    But the best of luck and i wouldn't worry too much about her playing you around. It seems she is interested. Take it for what it is and take it for the face value of it all. If it's good, it's good. Don't think too much about it.

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    Shoneghosts is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Is she into me or am I being fooled again?

    Thanks for the responses guys, Im pretty certain about this now but I have 2 more questions.

    1. What is this being genuine thing?(Im new to the terminology sorry). Do you mean Im being straight forward with her or?..

    2. As for her bday party at the club, if I dont have the $$ to make it should I just take her out to dinner? Or should I go find someone to borrow from and make it no matter what?

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    Default Re: Is she into me or am I being fooled again?

    Being genuine in the sense of that you are being who you are, not putting on a show. she is attracted to it so do you, but don't be too easy with it.

    It is a double edged sword. Some girls take advantage of it, so sometimes playing it back and holding back a little is ok.

    Girls like genuine guys. They know when a guy is real. So it's a good thing.


    For her birthday, it is entirely up to you. You seem like you want to go, but not going because you don't have the money is understandable. Plus... if you just kind of met her, she may want you there, but she is also going to be with a bunch of her friends and the attention will be on her so you may not get the attention you think you might be getting.

    Doing dinner isn't necessarily a bad thing, but I hate spending unnecessary amounts of money on a girl. The question you need to ask yourself is, has she earned a date, in your eyes? Is she worth the dinner?

    If you do do dinner, don't overdo it. Yes, it's her birthday, but you also just met her. I would keep things simple. Little fun place with drinks is fine. You can turn the night into a late night hang out if you choose the right place with the right vibe and good music.

    Also, if you do decide to go to her birthday, don't be suckered into thinking you have to pay for everything. She is NOT your girlfriend yet. And even if she was, a girl who isn't willing to pay for certain things can be a huge hole in your pocket in the future.

    This is all circumstantial things though. I am not in your shoes, and I do not know what extent she is to you or what she has done for you. But you got to play it cool. Girls will walk all over a guy if he is too easy. They may enjoy it at first, but some girls will get bored of it and move on.

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    Default Re: Is she into me or am I being fooled again?

    Thanks my man you've been a big help, Im gonna take her out most likely for dinner, we had a blast together Saturday. Thanks again!


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