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    Default text game: escalated too early?

    Hey guys,
    I might use some assistance here...

    I met a girl at a party, started with smalltalk, got some obvious IOIs, N-closed her and started texting next evening while hanging around with some mates. Reply came pretty soon, nothing special though.
    At home again and being a lil stoned, I mistook it for an awesome idea to text this:
    "[...]You got the same name as my sis, kinda confusing... Now if we name our kids like my parents, it's gonna get complicated (: Gnight and sweet dreams!"
    Too damn direct as a 2nd text msg I guess. Now it's been like 2 days without any reaction. I've started wondering if that one was enough to totally fk it up, actually doubt it.
    Now how to fix this? I've been thinking bout something like "P.S.: whoever takes me seriously on a Sunday eve does so at own risk Anyways, [new topic, maybe bout going somewhere]". Or just start a new convo? And what about the timing?
    I don't wanna mess anything up at that early state as she might actually be an LTR candidate...
    She's the university student type, if that matters.

    Any help welcome!

    -Jaq

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    Default Re: text game: escalated too early?

    wait a few days then send another message don't even say anything about the last message.

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    Default Re: text game: escalated too early?

    Define "a few"

    Any hints on the topic? I hardly wanna creep her out another time by asking her out directly, still that's where I wanna have the convo asap...

    -Jaq

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    Default Re: text game: escalated too early?

    The message was meant to be funny but didn't go far enough so instead you just looked overly serious.

    Wait one or two days then text her back something fun. It can be literally anything just keep it light.

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    Default Re: text game: escalated too early?

    Dude, smoking tree and gaming never goes well haha.

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    Default Re: text game: escalated too early?

    Thanks guys!

    Bimmer: yeah well, I noticed

    So, It's been like 4 days now and I still haven't come up with "the" striking idea. Anything that crosses my mind seems to be either boring or too bold for this kinda sensitive situation...
    Ok we had Labour day yesterday, where people round here usually meet up n start drinking early. So atm I'm thinkin of something like
    "Hey, me again! So how much can you recall from yesterday's sunbathing? "
    Surely could be de-bolded a lil as well, though again it'd end up in being a boring standard question. Kinda looking for the fine line inbetween...

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    Default Re: text game: escalated too early?

    Quote Originally Posted by JaqenHghar View Post
    "Hey, me again! So how much can you recall from yesterday's sunbathing? "
    Get rid of "hey me again!" You are already introducing the frame as if you know that you are an irritation.

    The second bit is a little boring tbh. You can always use a comment to dangle and peak her interest..

    e.g. OMG just had the most embarrassing day of my life!

    or

    e.g. Just had the weirdest dream ever! I actually woke up shaking!


    You're not asking a question but you are baiting for one. Small difference but stronger frame in my opinion.

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    Default Re: text game: escalated too early?

    So, It's been like 4 days now and I still haven't come up with "the" striking idea.
    no kidding, it doesn't require more than 10-15minutes if that to send a text, i understand you might not be used to it, but hell no should you be thinking about it for 4 days, let alone have this sort of thing on your mind, Sidewinders texts are good, but even with the explanation of the concept itself you won't get it, use the damn search button or even just look at other threads, your situation really isn't any different to anyone else that has asked the exact same thing

    read guides / threads

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    Default Re: text game: escalated too early?

    Here in Europe the hot weather is arriving, so there's loads of tinky winky guys going to the gym, so that they can have a great body to show in the summer. Well, obviously in the summer of 2014.

    What I'm currently seeing is that there's also loads of guys who sign up this forum to ask questions about girls, the same questions every other guy asks with different words. Start using the search button guys!

    It's cool to answer all of you, it provides us with training and more knowledge from other experienced PUAs, however it's not a tempting idea.

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    Default Re: text game: escalated too early?

    Thx sidewinder, good points to consider.

    hyp: I have read quite some tutorials n threads, including cliffhanger strategies, but I gotta have missed the part saying "that's the only way to do it".
    I do get the concept behind that one, which actually seems a lil too transparent to me, and my target is a language student who may know a thing or two about rhethorics either.
    I grabbed that # by just being myself and aced out 2 others who kept trying. Based on that, I'd simply feel better using a more natural approach without the need to make up stories just cuz nothing uber amazing happened recently, that's all.

    -Jaq


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