So there is this girl, or rather there was this girl. But this is pertaining to her so i guess it belongs here. So to start off i will give a brief synopsis of what happened and what i remember. This happened a few months ago so i don't remember some of the things that happened. Technically this girl was my first pickup i would speculate.
My interactions with her started by a recommendations from a friend, whom conversed with this girl a few times. He works at a collage and she goes there. He basically said "You two would be good together." So after a few weeks i finally muster up the courage to ask this girl out, she also happened to work at an ice cream place where my aunt works. Basically the approach was horrible and it went me standing around for a bit before walking up to her and asking her if she wanted to hangout sometime. She said yes and gave me her number. I promptly left right after she did. I waited till the next day and texted her i think at noon, then talked for a bit. She stopped responding then 4 comes around i get a text after i sent another one. She said sorry or something like that and told me when she is at work or doing stuff she turns her phone off. We texted a bit, although she texted very few texts and when she did they were far in between. Things were good, i was rather happy. The Sunday of that weekend (Or Saturday, i'm not quite sure) i asked her if i could call her, she said yes. So i did that night, and we set a date, to go for coffee. Then it all started, my creeperness started (Or as some have said for different people my clingyness). The following week i set a minor meetup at our collage so we could chat but due to misunderstandings we didn't meet up and missed the opportunity to talk. I tried to text her but she had her phone off, but i was scared i scared er off so i sent way to many texts. She did text back, albeit she was a lil annoyed, but i bounced back. We were still on for the date. I text her on and off, no real issues i may have gone a bit overboard on the texts sometimes. But then comes the following Monday when i got scared once again texted a bunch, no response, her phone was off. Then i did not hear anything by Tuesday so i called a few times and left a few messages saying how i wasn't used to asking girls out and such (A bit creepy i know but hey at least i admit it). I do talk to her again via text and we are still on for the date believe it or not, the date day comes on that Sat, i get all ready then i get a text her flaking saying she wanted to study (She did have legit finals the next week). We do rain check it though. So time goes on i get more insecure and such call text. I even messaged a friend of her and she said to jsut wait it out and i did. The final text i get from her is basically her saying. "I don't think my mom would like me dating someone 4 years older then me." She was 18 i was 22. I was like wth, but i was like ok and we have not talked since. This ended in early December. And as i said i have yet to talk to her since. She still works at the place my aunt does and my grandmother lives in an apartment beneath the building. (Its a lil mom and pop type of store).
Now the explanation out of the way and why i am here/need advice. How can i re bounce back from this with said girl? I no longer have her number, and i am a bit ashamed to go where she works out of fear of possible gossip, however i do want to. She is or seems to be the shy type who i am guess never really had a BF. I mean what can i really do? Before you all say just leave her and such, i hear ya and i have been attempting to talk to some girls. Also i have recently felt this way about wanting to reconnect with sad girl. This has never happened to me before, i go three months without even thinking of her and then bam all of a sudden i do.
Since then i have tried to talk with girls but also hit a spiral down a bit. At one point i actually contemplated getting back with my ex which i know i could if i tried. So i'm not sure if this whole event hit me hard or what.
So in closing any advice, tips similar stories would be nice. Or if you have any other questions that could help me sort through this that would be awesome.