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Thread: STICKING POINT: Confidence decline, and freezing up after opening

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    Default STICKING POINT: Confidence decline, and freezing up after opening

    So, I have been in the game for about 3 months now. I was tired of being an attractive guy who had never asked for a girls number (excluding online dating). I've had some really hot girlfriends, but they came on to me, and somehow I didn't screw it up. Well, I picked up Neil Strauss' the Game and made an over weekend transformation, I had a confidence I've never had before and it was wonderful, and I did quite well. However over the course of the last 3 months my confidence has been steadily returning back to where it was and I get that same terrified feeling in my stomach when I think about talking to a girl. I don't know how to re-fix this, for good.

    The second point is that when i'm at a bar and have a few drinks, and actually do manage to open, I have NO IDEA WHERE TO GO! I look like this fun confident guy who gets there attention and uses Kino for about 60 seconds and then the conversation takes a dies. I just end up standing there losing their interest faster than a formula one race car driver takes a roundabout.

    Any help on these would be a miracle. I've had a taste of what it feels like to be so successful and I don't remember what I was doing then that I'm not doing now. I didn't have these problems right after I read the book. I'm tired of being an AFC.

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    Default Re: STICKING POINT: Confidence decline, and freezing up after opening

    Are you using techniques from the game? Is that your main source of information because the ideas from it are good but using canned material won't get you far. You have to understand and believe that anything you say is interesting because you said it. You can't think of anything to say because your trying to impress her. Also you start high energy and lose it. Try going in with a more relaxed attitude. In fact, dont even try. You'll notice that just a relaxed confident opener from an attractive guy will get her naturally interested. Say anything you want. Whatever comes to mind and dont expect her to be impressed.
    What you need will not come quickly. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS WHAT YOU FEAR. Take comfort that what you seek is there. But you will NEVER have it if you keep being a p$ssy.

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    Default Re: STICKING POINT: Confidence decline, and freezing up after opening

    Thanks for the help. I am using some techniques from "The Game", but mainly the book just brought me into the community. It just showed me all the openers we all know, the best friends test, the apocalypse opener, the bravo number close, etc. I am having trouble with DHV, and just finding topics to talk about. I think you're right though, I did walk in with a confidence like "these girls are so damn lucky that I'm coming over to talk to them", and now my want for success has made me go in the an "I don't wanna mess this up" or "I feel like an AFC" mindset. Any tips on getting in the right mindset?

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    Default Re: STICKING POINT: Confidence decline, and freezing up after opening

    If nothing else think to yourself I just want to make this girl's day and I want to find out who she is. You cannot fail you can only learn. Rejection doesn't exist she was either going to like you or not. What you do in is in your control and what she does should not affect you. Dont even look for an outcome.
    What you need will not come quickly. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS WHAT YOU FEAR. Take comfort that what you seek is there. But you will NEVER have it if you keep being a p$ssy.


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