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Thread: She flaked 5 times, do I return the favor?

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    Default She flaked 5 times, do I return the favor?

    Hey guys,

    Met this HB 8 at a concert, totally hit it off and number closed.

    I've invited her out what seems like 5 times now, she's always came up with some excuse. She is short in txt and not very responsive. I was about to cut ties when she text me to come out for her sisters bday tonight.

    Should I go but just reference the fact that she's a flake? Should I flake? Go and completely forget about her flaky behavior?

    Whaddya think?

    Thanks bros

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    Default Re: She flaked 5 times, do I return the favor?

    I'd go, but make it sound like you have a previous obligation that you need to get done with first. Like lunch/dinner with some friends or event whatever. Point is make it sound like you're busy and you won't give up your plans for hers, but are willing to visit her after your plans are done.

    If she's invited you then why not go, but don't bring up her flaking because she'll know you have been noticing. If she brings up, shrug it off and change the topic.

    Good luck.

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    Default Re: She flaked 5 times, do I return the favor?

    I think you should have blown her out at her 2nd flake, she's clearly not attracted to you.

    Oh I have only read now that she invited you to her sister's birthday...
    Let's do an exercise (I'm really enjoying this sentence, maybe I'll make it my catchphrase. Or not.): does your gut feel that going to the party feels right? I'm not asking what your brain/emotions say, but only your gut.

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    Default Re: She flaked 5 times, do I return the favor?

    i'd say go, cause it'll be an interesting experience, who knows what will happen, but as rockd said make sure she knows u got sh1t to do beforehand

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    Default Re: She flaked 5 times, do I return the favor?

    The correct response is no, you should not flake on her in this instance. You have two options: (1) You can say you're not going, or (2) You can go and try to build more attraction.

    The reason you shouldn't flake on her is that in this case flaking will not fulfill its intended purpose. Because you were invited to her sisters bday, if you choose to flake on her she will not feel the repercussions of you doing so because she will still have a place to be that is enjoyable. If you're going to flake on her, you should do it when it's going to leave her high and dry, because then she'll feel the full brunt of the flake.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: She flaked 5 times, do I return the favor?

    If you're going to flake on her, you should do it when it's going to leave her high and dry, because then she'll feel the full brunt of the flake.
    how do you know when this is Duke? :P

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    Default Re: She flaked 5 times, do I return the favor?

    Don't be petty. Either go out with her or leave her alone for the next guy to put up with. Fuck this petty "eye for an eye" crap.
    Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “WOW...What a Ride!”

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    Default Re: She flaked 5 times, do I return the favor?

    All duly noted... I guess I just didn't want to seem like when she says jump... I say how high.

    On another note I did go... And ended up K closing... Turned out to be a pretty fun night. I brought up her flakiness in a playful way by nicknaming her frosted flake

    So lesson learned.... Eye for an eye is bull if there's an opportunity to build attraction.

    Thanks guys!

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    Default Re: She flaked 5 times, do I return the favor?

    Hoping someday that frosty flake may play with your lucky charms

    Glad that you at least had fun and she didn't flake


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