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    Default Dealing with lack of punctuality in long-term game

    I've got this HB8 I've been back-burner gaming for a long time. We met a few years ago and she's been in and out of my life in phases, which is fine with me- I usually have at least a dozen low-intensity long-term games going on at a time. She just recently moved close to me so we've been texting some and visiting occasionally. At this point I only know her from my social sphere and don't see her out at clubs or events. There's definite interest but I suspect she feels intimidated by me.

    Problem A: She always has 1-2 friends (AFCs) with her, and I can't seem to get her over by herself. She's staying with a friend right now so she doesn't have a place by herself. Not sure how to proceed.

    Problem B: And the larger problem for me, she's chronically late for everything. Last time I tried inviting her over I waited 11 hours for her to arrive. (Didn't have anything else to do so I put up with it but made sure my displeasure was clear.) Generally speaking there's always a 2-3 hour latency between agreed-upon times and actual arrival.

    Problem A I could probably puzzle out myself eventually, but I figured I'd put it out there.
    Does anyone have any experience/advice with Problem B?
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    Default Re: Dealing with lack of punctuality in long-term game

    With problem B, there are ways to fix it. If she is holding you out on a string like that, you have to make it even clearer that you won't tolerate it. Make some plans that involve her being there promptly, or where there are other people involved. If she isn't there within five or ten minutes, tell her "Sorry, but we're heading off now" and proceed on with the plans without her. Nothing more than that. Right now she's doing this to you because she believes that she can get away with it. However, I can guarantee you after doing this a few times that she will snap into line and treat you with a different level of respect.

    With A, that is easily addressed with gaming the guys. Don't focus on her at all when doing this. For more info on this, I have a guide here on how to effectively be an alpha male and game other guys. By getting at the head of the pack, you are getting ahead of everyone else and thus making yourself look more favorable to her.
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    Default Re: Dealing with lack of punctuality in long-term game

    Setting up time-specific instances with big let downs sounds like solid advice. I'll give that a shot.

    I'm already the alpha of the group no problem. I just can't send them home without her without completely revealing my hand, nor will she visit without them (yet).
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