I used to date this girl five years ago and we broke up. Five years later like last December we started dating again. I had gained a 100 pounds and my life was a mess. She suggested we be friends but there was an obvious romantic undertone to the whole thing. We had plans to go to Chicago for the weekend and valentines day plans.
Anyways she broke up with me. Even though it was just a "friendship". I lied to her about a few things and was a complete dick.
I've always loved this girl and still do.
We started texting each other a few weeks ago but she's been shit testing me out the ass. She flaked but still texts me. She asked me when I was going to be back in town so we could meet up. My friend ran into her so I texted her and asked her why she was stalking my friend. And she said obviously because she wants to date him. We joke for a bit and she said actually I have a bf now. I said that's cute!
Anyways she keeps saying she wants to meet up but I don't think she's even sure yet. Who knows but should I try to work my way in?
Do I meet with her and try to work my way in? I'm also working on myself. I've lost 54 pounds since January 1 and getting my life back in order.
Or other option is I forget her for a few months work on myself and go back. I bought two pairs of shoes for her that I really liked and she liked as well. I never have them to her but I was thinking of maybe sending them now with this letter and just cutting her off for 5/6 months:
"I don't think either one of us is ready to reignite our relationship. Maybe a bit more time is needed. There is a chance that it might be a terrible idea. Yet, I can also see great things happening if we do try again. It really needs to be right this time. I think we need to start fresh and leave the past in the past. Start with a new foundation built on honesty, trust, and respect. Until we can wholeheartedly commit to that, there is no point in trying. I know well catch up down the line even if its just for one night. Things will be much better than they ever were.
Do you remember these? I was just as excited as you were when you first showed me these. I know that you were just as excited as I was when I first showed you the Haider Ackermann. I never felt like I got these for you. At the time, I always felt as if we were in it together.
I've had these for a quite a while, well before everything happened. At the time, I was not sure when to give you them, yet these are for you regardless of what happens between us. I know I didn't do a good job, yet I always just wanted to make you happy and make you smile. Back then, you certainly made me smile a lot. Plus, you can use the added height."
I'm giving her the shoes one of these regardless of whatever happens between us