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    Question Did i lose her interest?

    so ive been text gaming a HB 8-9 on fb.and all seems to be going well. we have the same music taste (metal \,,/). long story short i build enough comfort,trust and attraction and got her to the point of her sending me half naked pictures.she even said that she wanted me and only me.then all the sudden 2 days later she becomes cold and less responsive to my messages. her replies to my messages got longer and longer. she was usually a quick messager. now she would see my message and not respond till like 10mins-1hr later or not respond at all. so im confused on what is happening.was it only lust?.im thinking about using the opener "i don't think we should do this anymore......sometim es you make me feel like i am a piece of meat". to see if she would come crawling back,which backfired on me twice because i didn't have or know a really good follow up. maybe even freezing her out.my recent activity went like this:

    [yesterday]

    me:hey,hows my groupie doing? (a fun flirty opener i made up,worked on another girl)

    herseen msg)-no response-

    [today]

    she posts an upsetting status this morning about being called a groupie and fake etc. she was talking about another guy saying those things,but i felt it was also targeted at me.so i messaged her saying;

    me:idk if that status was partly for me,but i apologize. you're more tome than just a sex object..

    herkay

    8hrs later and i havent replied back yet.idk what to say yet. i felt like i displayed too much interest and comfort. what mistakes did i make and how could i fix them and the situation?

    Any suggestions or advice?

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    Default Re: Did i lose her interest?

    Sorry this one is a train wreck, nothing comes to mind right away, I have to let this one stew for a while before I can think of anything.

    Groupie thing was a bit harsh, being that they are typically slutty and that is one thing the ladies hate feeling like is a slut.

    Calling her out on it only brings attention to the fact you are following her close on social media. She may feel you are confronting being that your apology was very direct. So she my feel that you where mad about it.

    Let me think on it for a while I cannot promise I will think of anything good but, let me try.
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    Default Re: Did i lose her interest?

    okay im just as baffled as you are. as for now im doing a freeze out

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    Default Re: Did i lose her interest?

    Ok, good thing is at this point nothing can hurt too much, bad thing is .....

    Anyway it isn't so much as a freeze out as it is a timeout to really let the tensions settle. I say that because freeze outs are usually to punish her for something that you didn't like but in this instance she really didn't do anything wrong.

    Letting her emotions cool off will also help give you time to come up with a more delicate approach. It is a balance game you need to keep interest, while maintaining sexual tension, without crossing the line to being crude.

    Texting game follows many of the same rules as online dating. Both sections here have some good content on how to keep her engaged but you can only go so far in text/online game.

    I freely admit that text game and online are rather my weakest points, but on the flip side to that I have been able to help others when they have had issues in this department.

    Not sure what all you have discussed but discussing ambitions helps like school, work, what do you want to do with your life. Flirty conversation still needs genuine content isn't cheapened to a shallow exchange of "you are a total fox" "thanks" silence.

    Trying to Beas helpful as possible without pushing forth into some really tough love post. Fair amount of people would likely give you a wtf where you thinking.

    Timeout good, look into a more delicate and engaging response/ reopener and go from there. Search up on text game read some online game stuff. If you need opinions about the re-opener feel free to post it and ask opinions. Or if not comfortable posting for all to see pm it to a trusted member.

    Editorial comment: adjust for regional differences too, New York area is very vibrant lifestyle may have to tone back quite a bit for states that are more conservative and or laid back. Not dissing on New York just saying put you and I in a room me from Wisconsin you from New York depending on context there would be unite a culture shock there.
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    Default Re: Did i lose her interest?

    Quote Originally Posted by hometownextra View Post
    Ok, good thing is at this point nothing can hurt too much, bad thing is .....

    Anyway it isn't so much as a freeze out as it is a timeout to really let the tensions settle. I say that because freeze outs are usually to punish her for something that you didn't like but in this instance she really didn't do anything wrong.

    Letting her emotions cool off will also help give you time to come up with a more delicate approach. It is a balance game you need to keep interest, while maintaining sexual tension, without crossing the line to being crude.

    Texting game follows many of the same rules as online dating. Both sections here have some good content on how to keep her engaged but you can only go so far in text/online game.

    I freely admit that text game and online are rather my weakest points, but on the flip side to that I have been able to help others when they have had issues in this department.

    Not sure what all you have discussed but discussing ambitions helps like school, work, what do you want to do with your life. Flirty conversation still needs genuine content isn't cheapened to a shallow exchange of "you are a total fox" "thanks" silence.

    Trying to Beas helpful as possible without pushing forth into some really tough love post. Fair amount of people would likely give you a wtf where you thinking.

    Timeout good, look into a more delicate and engaging response/ reopener and go from there. Search up on text game read some online game stuff. If you need opinions about the re-opener feel free to post it and ask opinions. Or if not comfortable posting for all to see pm it to a trusted member.

    Editorial comment: adjust for regional differences too, New York area is very vibrant lifestyle may have to tone back quite a bit for states that are more conservative and or laid back. Not dissing on New York just saying put you and I in a room me from Wisconsin you from New York depending on context there would be unite a culture shock there.
    well i don't like the way shes acting lol. how long should i keep this time out?. shes actually in a different state (ik its a pretty dumb situation to worry about). i want to take it to the next level and call her,but my phone game is soo bad. and i dont think there really is a descriptive guide on here to learn from. texting is easier for me because there isn't akward pauses.


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