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    Aow4321 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Would these be ioi's worth noting?

    Ive been fooled before, but this girl and I have hung out twice now, the first time I payed for dinner and we were very flirty, our convos are back and forth and if theres ever silence its comfortable and were very ok with touching and being in each others space. Anyways heres a list of the ioi's in question.. 15 of them

    (It was her birthday so I got her a teddy and a simple bracelet with her fav color {fake}stone so I didnt feel cheap)

    1. She wore the bracelet immediately and kept saying how much she loved it.
    2. For the teddy she was hugging it the whole time in the car and mentioned I shouldve put my cologne on it so it smelled like me(friggin slipped my mind)
    3. I called a friend to ask where to find parking in a busy area in the car and the whole time I was on the phone she was resting her head on my shoulder.
    4. Lots of Kino(again)
    5. Kept showing me her nails and let me hold her hand to look at them.
    6. She mentioned her friends wanted her to go clubbing that night(She loves the club scene so I was impressed she went with me over them)
    7. She kept asking questions about what Ive done sexually(our first time together she asked about my past relationships) and shed really press, shed tell me something shes done without much prying from me but I, trying to keep some mystery about me, would kinda brush it off or not go into too much detail even against her comments like "cmonnn tell meeee" and "pleaase you have to".
    8. She was well dressed, better than the last time we met(but it may have been because we were doing dinner and a bar)
    9. At the restaurant we would feed each other off of each others forks, and she made me try something I didnt think Id like of hers as well while I made her try a dreaded pickle because she said she didnt like them, that I already half ate(she ate off the part I bit already)
    10. Lots of eye contact when talking face to face.
    11. When we got out of the car to walk to the restaurant she put her hair in a pony tail and was twirling the tail very often.
    12. Shes always laughing with me and mentioning how funny I am but if I compliment her I get the usual "Aww thank you" or "Aww youre so sweet"
    13. It was near 4 am when I was dropping her off(didnt plan on that late but the date started late anyway) and we were both very very tired but she seemed really worried about me getting home safe and kept reiterating to text her when I get home.
    14. When we neared her home she kept mentioning she had onion breath(a lot)(Stupid me gave her my onion that was on my steak)
    15. After dropping her off I get a series of texts on the highway at about one minute intervals(I guess to keep me awake) in this order "plz" "dont" "fall" "asleep" "on" "the" "road" "txt me" "when" "u" "get" "home" "plzzzzz"

    Side note: We had a fun time that night.

    So my question is are these ioi's that are worth taking seriously? Or do these mean nothing and I just ask her out blind.

    Also could you please clarify what you think her repeating she had onion breath a few times. I was thinking she might have been expecting a kiss but didnt want to gross me out. But maybe she was just using that as an excuse because she didnt want a kiss?

    Thanks!

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    Default Re: Would these be ioi's worth noting?

    These, to me, are more platonic IOIs. It's ok to ignore them. You want to focus on the IOIs that are specific to you. Like when she asked about your sexual history. It's still kind of a 'friend' thing, but you could easily turn it into a bit of attraction with the 'mystery' you mentioned.

    If she touches you after you make a joke then that's a good IOI. Not when she touches you then asks for something from you. That's manipulative.

    Eye contact is good. But if you have eye contact with no words then that's even better. You want to fuck her with your eyes. If she's into THAT, you're golden.

    Now IOIs are a good guideline, but don't rely on them. Some women are shy and may show body language that make you think she's not interested when she is. So you want to view IOI's as more like milestones in a way. But not rules. Just a guide.

    When she gives you IOIs then test her compliance. Get her to do something for you. Start small. If she does it with no resistant then keep asking for bigger things. It's also a good guide to how much attraction she has for you. Once she is following your lead then you've just shaped it that if you were to go and kiss her, she'd think it rude not to. Because she wouldn't be compliant. Rarely you build up enough compliance and don't get a kiss out of it. So become her leader and, once she accepts this role, she'll follow whatever you do.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Would these be ioi's worth noting?

    Hmm so it doesnt sound like theres any attraction beyond friendship there? I should note that there were a few moments where my body just felt attraction(I cant explain it felt.. electrical) when we had "closer" moments and i swore she could feel that too, idk if it was pheromones or what.

    Also do you have and suggestions as to what "small favors" would be and then how it scales up from there?

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    Default Re: Would these be ioi's worth noting?

    First off, it's rarely a good idea to pay for dinner unless you are already sleeping with her. I understand that it was her birthday but you should not be taking her out on her birthday for a first date anyway.

    In my opinion, you gave her too much value without her giving you enough. She seemed interested to a degree but you can't spoil her too soon. She talked sexual with you and that's great but you need to escalate. Get her back to her place or yours. You need to sleep with her as soon as possible(within one week or three dates if possible). Also, show interest while at the same time plant some seeds of doubt in her mind("you seem nice but you might be too high maintenance for me" etc ). Be a challenge and qualify her. Let her know you will hang out with her as long as she respects you and your time and doesn't flake.


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