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    Hey guys,

    I'm a "newbie" to PUA Forums and this is my first thread.

    I'm almost 30 and I've never had a girlfriend. I'm not a virgin or anything like that but I've never been in a relationship. I have been told to be honest about it with women but my experiences tell me otherwise. They usually get turned off and I won't get past the second or third date. I feel like once I tell them they start thinking "what's wrong with this guy" or think that I'm a player and I'm just trying to sleep with them.

    Not sure how to handle this one because it gets harder as I get older. At this stage of my life I do want a relationship but I know girls don't want a guy who is inexperienced in relationships, specially at my age when guys are usually getting married. I don't want to lie because things like that eventually come up and it looks worse later on...

    Thanks for your support.

    Sharpshooter

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    Default Re: how to tell the truth

    This is quite possibly the toughest question I've ever seen. And since no one else has been able to answer it I'll give it my best. If you have any long term friends with benefits call it a relationship. Also before she has a chance to be turned off remind her that you have no baggage which is a huge help. I'm divorced and have an 8 year old son. Now that is hard to get a girl past. Btw at 26 I am divorced 3 times. If I can get a chance after saying that you can too. Just watch how you say it

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    Default Re: how to tell the truth

    Women do love honesty , it's about how you come across with it . Also most questions a girl can ask that will stop her from investing time in you are sh!t tests, and if you're an open book , they loose interest pretty darn quick. Read about sh!t tests and how to create mystery , it'll help you get to your endgoal

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    Default Re: how to tell the truth

    Quote Originally Posted by sinkalos View Post
    I'm divorced and have an 8 year old son. Now that is hard to get a girl past.
    It's not hard to get by that, plenty of women , not to mention single moms are open to dating a guy who has a /few/ kid/s .. you're letting this get into your head and it is ruining your game.

    once you get past that yourself , have fun enjoying yourself

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    Default Re: how to tell the truth

    I've never been married and I am twice your age. Women ask me all the time why I never married and I tell the truth. The women I wanted to marry were like me and they put their educations and careers first. In fact, some of them never married either. Even though I never married, I know what marriage is all about. I even have kids.

    Why haven't you ever been in a relationship. Start there and make it sound positive.
    Carpe diem!

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    Default Re: how to tell the truth

    Thanks for the feedback guys.

    I think the reason I've never been in a relationship is because I never really connected on a deeper level. So after the initial excitement things just fizzle out and I lose interest. Mind you there have been women who also lost interest in me too so I think I gotta be less of an open book and create some sense of mystery.

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    Default Re: how to tell the truth

    Quote Originally Posted by FlowTime View Post
    Women do love honesty , it's about how you come across with it . Also most questions a girl can ask that will stop her from investing time in you are sh!t tests, and if you're an open book , they loose interest pretty darn quick. Read about sh!t tests and how to create mystery , it'll help you get to your endgoal
    YUP! A quite easy mistake that takes guys out of the rankings. I mean not saying the OP does this but alot of dudes sing out information like some Mob informant is putting the light on them...but its just them talking casually to some female they barely know. Dude will give some girl their life's story at the drop of the hat....she'll flip her hair and give the "look" and thats it, the guy will admit to murders he never even committed if thats what it takes.

    And its possible bro your not meeting the best type of women suited for you. Like minded, and like-interests are helpful. Seemingly as well, havent proved this, but alot of girls I kick it off with initially pretty well I often find out later they are like-minded and share similar interests I guess its the subconscious mind at its finest.


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