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    Default Approach Solution

    Hello, I have a fear to approach women not because of the approach itself, it's because the after approaching thing which is what to talk about and how to give a good first impression.
    Like when I join a group of girls and boys I see them all interact except me, I just stand there in silence waiting for someone to talk to me.
    Is there any book that help facing this problems ?
    I need a product that can help me understand women's mind from scratch as I don't have any experience.


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    Default Re: Approach Solution

    I'm sorry I don't have any materials to recommend to you my friend, but it sounds like fear is the problem. Your frame of mind is in the wrong place. You don't need to understand a woman's mind, not at this point in time. What you need to work on is the alpha mentality. Living a life that pleases yourself, doing what you want to do. Not living in fear of being judged and speaking only when spoken too. I recommend that you go out and just start talking to people. It doesn't matter how long (5 seconds or an hour). Say anything you feel like saying. End the conversation whenever you feel like ending it. Doing this will naturally help you to break out of your own shell.

    Remember the number one product is practice.

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    Default Re: Approach Solution

    You need to put less pressure on yourself. Don't focus on end results of the game. Also yes practice is key you cannot improve unless you try. Do not fear failure it is a far better teacher than success.
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.

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    Work on your content.Check the materials you read...things like celebrity gossips, places you have been,what you are passionate about, thoughts on a topic, your unique experiences are all things you can share.

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    Default Re: Approach Solution

    Mate I am not a native English speaker. When I moved to Australia I was worried about making English mistakes so I was kind of worried and avoided joining conversations. That approach made me more and more reserved to a point that I lost my confidence totally.

    If you are a native speaker you must have no issue in chatting and having a conversation with people unless :

    1- You have no confidence in yourself
    2- You have nothing to say

    From my experience men and women are totally the same when it comes to having a normal friendly chat. So you don't need to understand women's minds. If you keep silent people would think you don't enjoy the convo and so they won't strike a conversation with you. Start talking loudly with your legs open and your arms/hands moving while making eye contacts with everyone in a group and see the difference. Do it twice and you will get your confidence back.

    If you have nothing to say it's probably because you either don't read books, you don't read news paper, you don't listen to proper radio so you don't hear about the current affair and you don't travel. You may also need to have more conversations to gain more information and knowledge (chicken and eggs issue!). If you build up knowledge and experience you will be able to say interesting things and attract people.

    good luck mate


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