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Thread: the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

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    Unhappy the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

    I haven't talked to this girl in person in over two years, but we met at camp two years ago and i really felt we had a connection, and I sent this girl I like this message on facebook

    "You just popped into my head so hi...now please stay out of there."

    and I saw that she had seen that message but not had responded. What do I say now to not come off as desperate?

    because i'm sure she's leaving in like alittle over a month to another city and I want to be in a relationship with her.


    I REALLY like this girl. please help.

    thanks everyone.

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    Default Re: the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

    She is just obliging your request to to stay out of your head.

    Ouch, I do not think that was a good line to keep the attraction up, also mentioning like that makes it appear that you think about her a lot border lining neediness, after all it appears to be a problem "now please stay out of there"

    Not trying to insult, but tough love is needed. More provocative conversation would work better, engage her into the conversation, do you still (pick characteristic from camp) like you did back then, that was ( explain funny, cute .....)
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.

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    Default Re: the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

    Quote Originally Posted by hometownextra View Post
    She is just obliging your request to to stay out of your head.

    Ouch, I do not think that was a good line to keep the attraction up, also mentioning like that makes it appear that you think about her a lot border lining neediness, after all it appears to be a problem "now please stay out of there"

    Not trying to insult, but tough love is needed. More provocative conversation would work better, engage her into the conversation, do you still (pick characteristic from camp) like you did back then, that was ( explain funny, cute .....)
    ok so should I say something like this today?

    do you still (pick characteristic from camp) like you did back then, that was ( explain funny, cute .....)

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    Default Re: the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

    Truth is, you've probably already fucked it up. At this point you're in full blown recovery mode and your chances have decreased ten fold. Your best bet is to take heed of the old PUA adage, "Next"!

    Get over this one.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

    Let it chill for about a week then try to reengage hopefully within a week she will forget if not it is done
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.

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    Default Re: the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

    I get where he was coming from with the message, but if the girl doesn't know you enough she could just as easily misinterpret it. He was trying to send a fun flirty text, but it just came off as needy although that's not what he was trying to do. It could have been diffused by putting a smiley though like :P or .,. Stop crushing on this girl my man and try to talk to the other chicks. Only a fool puts all their eggs in one basket. Let this settle down for a couple of days like hometown said and try again.

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    Default Re: the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

    The problem with his first message was that it's been two years since he's seen her last. The message comes across weird/too strong in these circumstances.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    The problem with his first message was that it's been two years since he's seen her last. The message comes across weird/too strong in these circumstances.
    haha oh shit, I forgot that part. Yeah, that's hella weird.

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    Default Re: the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

    Yep.even if she liked you and you said she should stay of of your head you probably insulted her.

    What you can do to reengage:
    simply state: "..i noticed the last one i sent after this one got truncated.."

    this will wipe off the slate and give her the option if she had feelings for you to have a reason to anticipate something with you.u guys had a connection(as you said) and i think you should take her out and run kino.Safe!!Don't overgame too much.

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    Default Re: the woman I like is not responding to message I sent her, please help!

    The Duke is bang on here!

    You've made a mistake that a lot of newbies make in that you've read some material on the site, found an opener but you've used it in the wrong context.

    That opener only works as a re-engage when there is already attraction built and the interaction is fairly recent. So, as Duke pointed out, using it to open a girl you've not spoken to in 2 years is not going to work.

    Remember context is everything! You also have a oneitis issue. Don't invest so much into one girl! There are plenty of others!

    I think you may benefit from reading this: http://www.puaforums.com/how-text-gi...at-not-do.html


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