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    Default "Are you here to pick up women"

    So it seems like I get asked "did you come here to pick up women" a lot when I go out alone. Does this happen to anyone else? How should I respond to this?

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    Default Re: "Are you here to pick up women"

    Context? (thirty plus characters)
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    Default Re: "Are you here to pick up women"

    No... But if you are then say "yes and I thought you was cute so I wanted to say hi" or say " did you come here to pick up men?". The second one would put you backing the throne and it helps to you to see if she has a bf or not. Ex: " nooo, I have a bf so I can't do that" or something like that.
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    Default Re: "Are you here to pick up women"

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
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    well, for example; I was at a club alone and I seen someone I met there the week before and he was with 3 girls (he was gay), so he said to hang out with them for a while... while I was sitting with them one of the girls asked me "so why are you here alone? Do you just come here to pick up women?"

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    Default Re: "Are you here to pick up women"

    In night clubs and night game it's generally recognized that you're there to pick up women. The problem is that in the case you described, she isn't so much asking, "are you here to pick up girls." She's actually asking, "Why are you here alone? Are you a loner?" It was her just getting a feel for you. Generally when you game alone I suggest having a backstory for why you're there alone. In your case I don't know if it would have made a difference because it wasn't a cold approach.

    As far as people asking, "Are you here to pick up women?" how you answer should depend on context. If you're running night game then you can own it like marvilo suggest. You can turn it on her, also like marvilo suggests. Or you can give a different answer, such as, "No, I'm here to have a good time. But can you blame me for saying hello when a beautiful girl crosses my path?"

    However, in a day game context I suggest you never own it. "Pick up" as an activity is socially acceptable in night game, but not so much in day game. It makes it look like you have nothing better to do (which you probably don't, getting laid is pretty damn important to most guys ). Also, in day game you want to go direct with your opener, but if she calls you out your going to want to provide her with some plausible deniability.

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    Default Re: "Are you here to pick up women"

    Another thing you can do is have a geniue excuse so to speak why you're there.
    You may say:well even though that is not really bad as in like assuming without knowing(playfully pinch her lightly)and i am kind of social..am here for one thing

    She may ask you "what thing?" just brush it off and run game.

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    well the movie start in a few hours.hope it interesting or else i may ask for a refund.was doing something i decided now..

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    Default Re: "Are you here to pick up women"

    "Yes, I'm tired of kissing ice cubes, I wanna get my first kiss from a woman who is not my mother."
    Delivering it with good body language and it's all good. It doesn't really matter what you say, but how you say it.

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    Default Re: "Are you here to pick up women"

    I agree with the duke on the acceptable night game answer. But no matter what game you're doing; whether night or day you have to be honest. Women aren't dumb, they know if you're there to hit on women or not( idk how but they just farking do). Saying no in the day would put yourself in a deeper hole even though daygame is not socially acceptable in society in the day it's still good to be honest instead of : ex: daygame and you're asked that question and you reply " no" ( you're lying to yourself and the girls will know. Once you give an honest answer, believe it or not some girls will even try to help you achieve your goal or be even more ttracted to you. I hear a lot of women like guys that don't bet around the bush about what they want.( I need to work on that more because I always beat around the bush). But yeah that's my opinion .
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    Default Re: "Are you here to pick up women"

    I can't speak from experience, but it seems like there are differing opinions on how to handle this. Some of the experienced guys on this website say to have a manufactured reason, but on the contrary Roosh V says to confidently say "I don't have any friends," (I would imagine you would do this with kind of a cocky/funny tone). I guess field test both approaches. One approach may work better for you.

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    Default Re: "Are you here to pick up women"

    Quote Originally Posted by marvilo View Post
    I agree with the duke on the acceptable night game answer. But no matter what game you're doing; whether night or day you have to be honest. Women aren't dumb, they know if you're there to hit on women or not( idk how but they just farking do). Saying no in the day would put yourself in a deeper hole even though daygame is not socially acceptable in society in the day it's still good to be honest instead of : ex: daygame and you're asked that question and you reply " no" ( you're lying to yourself and the girls will know. Once you give an honest answer, believe it or not some girls will even try to help you achieve your goal or be even more ttracted to you. I hear a lot of women like guys that don't bet around the bush about what they want.( I need to work on that more because I always beat around the bush). But yeah that's my opinion .
    Pretty much theres a time and place for everything. You know either being truthful or beating around the bush(if she beats around the bush). Being truthful helps cause that sets the tone for things that your honest and not trying to fib sh1t.

    I like what DUKE said..plausible deniability. Makes good sense since your neither admitting or denying it.

    The best bet is to somehow flip it and accuse them of assuming something...."Oh do you assume every guy coming in her is trying to hit on you? Im just being friendly on my way up to buy a drink"....etc something of that nature.

    You got to realize to some hot female in a bar scene probably has had almost everything underneath the sun said to her as far as gaming, so shes probably heard it all....gotta keep that in mind.


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