Re: I need to adopt a new mindset ...
Haha, I was just thinking about how you guys get oneitis so easily. I just don't understand it.
For me, I was in a relationship for the better part of a decade, and so first off, just being interested in a girl doesn't seem that special to me.
I guess for me, to become a "oneitis" I really feel that a girl has to earn it. A kiss, a one night stand, a few dates, just isn't enough for me to get hooked on a girl. To get to this point you have to have a few different mentalities:
1) Abundance: There's always a different and better HB out there
2) You're the prize: She should be the one with oneitis because you're the prize. If you have oneitis it's because she's controlling the situation.
3) Confidence: Know that you can get someone else. Fear of letting her go and not getting someone else is the biggest cause of oneitis.
For me, a big part of it has come from disconnecting from the result. I just don't really care. If I don't get laid I don't get laid. Life goes on.
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."