Re: Need help with transitioning from openers to convo
Firstly, you got the number so good for you. I'm not sure if you know about this but instead of putting your number into her phone, just call her phone and say "now you have mine, too!" She thinks you're giving her your number, you're actually making sure she didn't give you a fake. It's handy.
But you want to be able to transition smoother than this, which I think is commendable. The way I would have done it isn't the way everyone would have done it, but I'll shed some light on how that would be.
When I approach women I'm usually quite quirky funny with my conversation, so if I saw her sat down doing homework or something similar I would have brought it into conversation something a little like this...
me -"Sorry, I can see that you're reading something, I didn't mean to interrupt, but you couldn't have been into it that much, I mean, you pretty much jumped at the distraction.. (teasing smile)"
She would elaborate on the reading material no doubt, if not ask something about it unless she trailed off into another conversation that could be hooked on...
me -"Oh right, fashion? Well...." (this next bit for me would work quite well delivered correctly as I have a hideously garish dress sense most of the time) "...I know just about everything there is to know about that, in fact is that...." (look at the book playfully) "...yeah,that's the one I wrote!" (it's all about the body language, the smile and the tone of voice...)
Her response, something mixed in a laugh and probably a little dismissive.
me -"So, you know... I don't usually do this but I'd be happy to help you study, any fashion student's lucky to have a friend like me..." (still teasing cheeky smiles etc) "...we could meet in some crowded bar, I could help you study for at least five minutes until we give up, get lost in chat and laughter, fall madly in love..."(trailing off flirtatiously) (say that the wrong way and you're done for, say it the right way and she'll blush and giggle, but more importantly, she knows you're using the studies as a joke to ask her on a date)
I would go down that sort of road. That way not only will you get her number but you could actually say something like;
me - "Ok, so how about tonight? We could meet at this spot say... seven thirty?" you're in. It will never go exactly like that, but it'd probably end the same way, especially seeing as you managed to get her number, she was interested.
The benefit of my approach is you're not left fretting around text game. you got her number BUT you also got a date.
Is that any good to you? Like I said my style isn't everyone's, I'm very jokey and playful, and throw a lot of flirtatious remarks in the mix. But that's because I like to be very upfront about why I'm talking to said person. Hope it helps.
Why become someone else when you can become a natural?