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    Default Most guys are in this type of situation

    For past months every girl I've been trying to get has been rejecting me. After following the rules on here of now texting her always, my friends said I was too slow. And when i began to text some other girl all the time, she got tired of me. Another situation, there's this girl in my study group i like and on the verge of losing her. We talked and went on a date. Well, I'm the class clown that cracks jokes a lot and don't know how to demonstrate high value like other guys. Unfortunately there are other guys after this girl too. Now my friends are saying i crack jokes too much that's why. You see, being a class clown really helped me catch girls in high school and now i can't stop. Now I have started watching some Tom Cruise and James Bond movies, so i can start acting like them. On the other side, I've a friend who's really good with women and all he does is buy them nice things. And I've read PUAs say don't spend your money on her. Now I'm really confused and frustrated, i don't want to have any girlfriend again...i just want to stay single maybe till when it's time to get married cos getting girls i like is not something I'm good at.

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    Default Re: Most guys are in this type of situation

    Well for your friend he's probably a natural. Now for you. STFU!!! You don't have to make jokes all the time, you're demonstrating low value and low self asteem. Make one of two jokes and move on to getting to know her. Demonstrate attraction to her if you really like her. Kino and built rapport, you also come off needy from what you've wrote. Take your time man.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Most guys are in this type of situation

    Girl's hate guys that demonstrate too much interest( idek why. I think it comes off to them as us being needy) idk. But think of that too
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Most guys are in this type of situation

    Being funny is not a problem. When all you do is crack jokes disregarding the situation at hand, then it becomes a problem. Imma funny guy, but it's about reading the situation, and timing your jokes right so they attract instead of making you look like a clown.

    @Marvilo: One big assumption that people make is that, getting girls without knowing the game=a natural. That couldn't be further from the truth. I know several guys who get a ton of girls, but they have NO game, regular confidence, etc. There are a lot of factors that can play into getting a girl to like you. Why are such friends able to get girls then? Simply because all the girls they get just like them. Mainly due to their looks.

    Picking up girls is completely different though. That's how you can tell a natural from your average joe.

    I went on such a rant I forgot the main points. Oh yeah, one was on spending money. Use your brain when it comes to this. You are not trying to impress a girl with how much money you'll spend on them, but rather with your personality. Generally if I take a girl out, and things are relatively cheap, I'll pay for her too. An example of this would be a coffee date, a cheap food date, or even a movie ticket. Unless I've been dating the girl for awhile, and I actually see things going somewhere, then I'll start dropping money on slightly more expensive things. Another big part of this is equality. Don't spend more money then she spends on you. She get's you a card and some chocolate for your birthday totaling $20. That should be your limit when shopping for her. Of course take this with a grain of salt though.

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    Default Re: Most guys are in this type of situation

    Some guys who are naturals are able to convey DHV and social proof easily. Ask any single doctor how many nurses throw their phone numbers at them but they have no game when people don't who they are.

    Watch when cops come into a club in their uniform just to make sure everything is ok in the club. Girls throw themselves at these guys because of social proof and the are able to DHV. Some situations just allow guys to have natural attraction.

    Unless you plan on having plastic surgery you are going to have to live with the features that you are born with. I know guys in wheelchairs, amputees, short guys and ugly guys who get lots of women. It's only an inssue if it's in YOUR own mind.

    My point to you is to stop worrying about your good looking friends, rich friends and do what YOU can do to CONTROL YOUR situation. Pointing at others is just an excuse.

    What can you control?

    -Dress well ALL the time if you plan to game on campus or in everyday situations.

    - groom yourself so you appeal to 85% of the females.

    - hit the gym and workout PROPERLY. You can change your appearance with 60 to 90 days with programs like Insanity and P90X. Buy them used where you can save lots of money. Spend the money on making yourself better instead of WASTING it buying expensive gifts for women who will not respect or love you for doing so . Buying women gifts is DLV unless you have f-closed

    - get a nutrition plan and follow it so you gain muscle and shed fat fast. Again, programs like Insanity and P90X come with a nutrition plan. Maybe take a cooking class if you don't know how to cook. Lots of women at these classes and when you go shopping for food the aisles are filled with girls

    Every two weeks you should be adding a different skill to your game:

    1/ - practice your openers everywhere. Practice on neighbors, family members and female friends. It's just practice.

    2/ - learn to hold a conversation where you can throw in a bit of humor. The most important part of the conversation is to learn the 2 to 1 rule. Let her talk twice as much as you do. If you talk a lot she WILL lose interest. Let her talk and then pick up hints about her and use those hits to close her later. Again, practice conversational skills every chance you get.

    3/- Don't be the class clown. Guys here describe theatbehavior as the performing monkey. Sure it will entertain them but you won't be f-closing if you persist.

    4/- After getting good at opening a girl then move on to building rapport by using CF and DHV.

    5/- then learn body language so you appear confident and read the signals she is sending you.

    6/- Then add kino to this mix

    7/- then add number closing to your skills

    8/- then add kiss close

    We didn't learn to go from crawling to running in a week ,so know that if you put the time and effort in that you will get the results you seek. I know that you have it within you to be successful with women.

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    Default Re: Most guys are in this type of situation

    I'm gonna break this down into a few rules for you:

    1.) Dont text her more than once a week unless she engages with you. Then you can engage with her in text back and forth a few times leading up to makign plans. But always allow at least as much time in between your text and hers as she does when she replies to yours.

    2.) Dont be the entertainer who is only good for jokes. You must be able to actually connect with the person.

    3.) Be internally validated. You are obviously seeking external validation and are relying upon success with women to make you feel fulfilled. Women can sense how important the interaction is to you. You are coming across as needy. Practice being non-needy and internally validated. Not caring if you get them or not.

    4.) Use presumptions. Dont ask for their number, date, approval etc. Assume the sale.

    5.) Be congruent. This means developing your entire personality and submodalities of communication such as body language. If you are coming across as incongruent the women wont trust you and will feel weird and awkward around you....because you will be coming across as weird and awkward.

    6.) you said you are frustrated and confused. This is where two major things come into play: Inner game, and practice (of routines, and outer game). Without those you wont have teh confidence or congruence you need to succeed. But with them you will attain mastery.


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