Re: Help! Cat string theory back at me!
GOD! What's with all of these people in thinking that you have to terminate sexual escalation?
You terminate RAPPORT, because that creates interest and a better picture for you when you come back around for the next interaction. Terminating attraction halfway through with a girl that is clearly trying to get close to you is a non-verbal way of saying "No, I don't want that." She rejected you because you rejected her early on. If you clearly see her trying to get at you, TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT! Grab hold of her emotions and send her on a roller coaster ride that is out of her world.
In addition, your huge problem was that you were literally a robot when it came to interacting with her. The conversations, the strategies, even the sexual contact was planned by a very specific example. What you need to learn is naturality. When the contact didn't go exactly like the book said (and I know specifically what the example entails because I have read it before), you malfunctioned.
When you used negs, they were almost always after you did something that she did not react as you were hoping for. Your negs came more off as you reeling back from your mistake rather than trying to poke fun at her This looks more like an AFC action rather than that of someone who is super smooth and clearly on top.
In the end, here is what you need to work on: get away from the books. Build up some naturality and your own language, and you should be pretty much golden.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X