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Thread: How do you let go when you do not want her?

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    Default How do you let go when you do not want her?

    Here's another thing that is bugging me lately. I'm pretty sure most of you guys encountered a similar incident, after all, we all are charming alphas.

    So there's this female friend, we know each other for some time but we've never gotten into much talking, such and such... We have each other's phone numbers though. Lately she started texting me, showing lots of IOIs even if I didn't do anything. She keeps trying to initiate talks with me every time she sees me, which normally we would just wave at each other and keep walking.

    I've been trying to blow her off. Blow her off easily, because she is still my friend after all. You might say: "Why don't you go for it?" Well, I've thought about that, but I couldn't find anything which makes me interested in her... (HB5, a bit chubby and shorty but not overweight, and our mindsets are not matching at all.)

    However, she just doesn't give up. She keeps coming at me and it sometimes makes me uneasy. Is there any way that I can let her go without hurting our friendship? I don't want to say such words like: "I know you like me but..." because she will deny it and get defensive...

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    Default Re: How do you let go when you do not want her?

    At that point tell her that you are casually seeing another girl. She doesn't need to know who this girl is. You still want to be friends with her. Let her down easily.

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    Default Re: How do you let go when you do not want her?

    I have definitely been in situations similar.. there are multiple ways to go about it, not sure which one works best though cause it all depends on the girl.

    There are situations where a girl just flat out asked me if I can see her as more than a friend... In that circumstance I was just truthful with her. I said I wasn't in the mindset for a relationship, I didn't want one because I just didn't have the capability to invest that time into it.
    She took it well, but that's because she is a real cool gal. However, that is how she reacted to me. I have no idea how she reacted inside.

    Bringing up that you know she likes you will be like attacking her pride. I know you aren't, but girls are real sensitive. You are right, she would likely become defensive.

    I agree with dave xxx... you can causally bring up something about another girl you are seeing. Like make it nonchalant so she gets the impression that you have no attraction towards her, but you see her as a friend and are comfortable enough to tell her. Bring it up, ask a question about something made up. Ask her about something like you need advice cause you are kind of seeing a girl and don't know where to go in whatever town.

    However, the bad thing about this situation is that you becoming unattainable may just make you more attractive and desired in her eyes. I've had it backfire on me. I've had girls who became obsessed because I didn't want them and I had something else on the side.

    Think of how girls put guys in the friend zone... Do the same thing to her. Put her in the friend zone just like girls do to guys.

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    Default Re: How do you let go when you do not want her?

    Both good suggestions above. Easiest solution is problem tell her you are seeing someone else, a classic flake response used by girls alot! I know this next bit may sound harsh buts it part of the game - if she has any hot friends, you could always use this girl to get to them, suggest you all doing something together, then when her friend sees how much she is all over you, she'll want in aswell!

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    Default Re: How do you let go when you do not want her?

    What Zeus mentions is absolutely true. It's the PUA version of the Trojan Horse. Use a girl whenever you can to eventually get to your target.

    My buddy met his wife like that. He made friends with her guy friend from high school.

    Her high school buddy had a crush on her and he wouldn't let any guys near her. So my buddy took him out drinking and built a rapport with him over time. Then after a couple of months he was introduced to the target. After that it was game over.

    Use pivots whenever possible. Be smart and use every advantage you can to get the girl you want.


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