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    Pointman04 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default What.. the ... hell....??!? Playing hard to get or??

    To start off-About me: Im a thin attractive guy, whos considered really funny and fun to be around by my friends(girls and guys, but girls laugh more), I always give people space because I like it myself(dont normally get attached or oppressive).

    Okay, so theres this girl Ive gone out with about 3 times in the past month(hung out the second time the weekend after I met her). We never mentioned the word date for any of them but we obviously connected. Shes my good friends best friend. Face to face she seems totally into me, touching, laughing constantly, high energy, ignores her phone the whole time, playing with her hair, eating off the same utensils, resting on each other, etc etc etc. So Im really feeling her, she has a great time each time with me, so I was gonna ask her out over the phone this past Tues on an actual date, and was feeling very confident.. only one problem.....

    Remember I said she never uses her phone when shes around me? Well she takes 10 mins-2 hours to return texts(like a 15-30 min average). Posts on facebook maybe once every 6 months lol and blah. But she usually eventually answers.

    Now when I called Tues at about 5 pm she didnt answer, but then she texted me that she was at work(she usually gets off at 9), so I said cool Ill call you tomorrow afternoon then. Later that night she called, a little after 9, but I was jogging.. she did however leave a voicemail, it was playful, funny(like how she is face to face) and basically said "can you please call me back" at the end. So I tried calling her back 30 mins after but she didnt pick up, so I sent a text poking fun at her about telling me to call back but not picking up, threw in an lol it was all jokes, and I think I said Ill call tomorrow its all good.

    Call Wednesday at about 4 pm and again no answer, normal. So I left her a voicemail mimicking hers she left me, again something she would find funny in person. Also sent a text saying "you are.. so hard.. to get a hold of", because it does get frustrating. This is where I started getting worried... she didnt respond the whole day, but I left her alone.

    Finally I decide to give it one more try for the weekend, I REALLY wanted to ask this chick out, nice fun girl, cute, plays video games, she really intrigued me(I didnt overly show it I dont think until maybe now..) so again I call her around 2 or 3, leave a voicemail saying basically "I give up calling this week, if you wanna go out this weekend call me" also mentioned in it I had something I wanted to ask her, and slipped a few jokes in as well(dont worry it was quick). I think I hid my annoyed/frustrated tone well and tried to keep a cheerful rhythm with my message, dunno if I succeeded but I think I did mostly, thats why I made a joke or two. Now again.. the whole day.. no response......

    So now here I am.. Im not hurt that she didnt answer, I dont get attached that easily, however whats bothering me is WHY isnt she responding, idk if I offended her, or shes playing hard to get, or she just suddenly lost interest. She even said in her voicemail to call her back, so I tried and she just ignores? I feel somethings wrong and Im the type of person that loves answers to everything, OCD runs in my family to a degree lol.

    So idk, maybe you can help me out here, what do you think is going on here? Im going out of town for the weekend and am just gonna forget about her for a week as of right now. Lemme know what you think, thanks for any help!!

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    rockd is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: What.. the ... hell....??!? Playing hard to get or??

    First, you are way to fixated on this girl. Second, you're thought process on dating a girl is a little skewed. When you are with a girl that you start to appreciate more than all the others, you keep hanging out and keep connecting. It should feel so natural that you find yourself drifting into a relationship with this girl. When you starting setting up a date by phone call and making it so 'official' it puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on both of you. And why do you keep calling her, it isn't working, voice mails too. I would never leave a voice mail, if she wants to call you back to find out why you called, she will.

    I think you drove her into a defensive position, she's most likely aware that you think of her as more than a friend. And rightly so, the last 3 times you hung out with her, was there any real escalation? Did you kiss, was it sexual, flirtatious. You are probably in the friend zone as it sounds like in your post. Most pua's on here, and to a degree myself, won't take a girl out on a real date until after sex, there are exceptions to this but it is a nice benchmark. The idea is you bond unofficially first and if you really connect you move forward from there.

    If you had to do anything, freeze her out in my opinion. She is not responding to you because she doesn't see you that way. You and her want different things, so you need to spend some time apart to try again. It's nothing to be hurt about, these things happen all the time. If you are particular about this girl, back off and do other things. Resurface with her at a later date (weeks in my opinion) and get on that damn escalation! She should always have it in the back of her mind if you are really into her, especially before and after you are kissing her and climbing that ladder.

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    Default Re: What.. the ... hell....??!? Playing hard to get or??

    Hmm, to be honest when were out were way too flirty/touchy to be friends(along with multiple signs). My thing is Im very bad at making a move unless I know she knows its a date, otherwise I just feel awkward. I waited with the last girl to make anything official sounding, I slept with her and all but when I asked her if she wanted to take it to another level, she basically let me know I was friend zoned(FWB).

    So I said to myself never again, this girl comes by and she starts making an impression so since my last time out, I try to capitalize the only way I know how, I took her out alone twice, paid for dinner once, she covered the next(they were cheap), in all honesty they felt like dates shed text me right after I leave thanking me and all as well. Even asking if I made it home safe.

    Getting all these signals I figured I need to capitalize on them and make my move, so thats why I was gonna ask her on a date "for fun" I wasnt gonna make it serious at all.

    The thing that gets me is she left the first voice mail joking, trying to make me laugh, and said "Please call me back".. and so I did and she ignores for the next 2 days.. I only called once wed and once thurs, no more Im not that weird lol and Im definitely freezing her out for at least 7 days yeah. Im just very, confused is all really, hoping someone can clear this up a bit for me.

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    rockd is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: What.. the ... hell....??!? Playing hard to get or??

    What works or goes wrong with one girl could have the opposite effect on another. A couple months ago with a girl I saw I called her up and asked her out to a date, and after that she told me she was not ready for a relationship and ended it. I was trying to take make it official but she told me she was aiming to take it slow, hang out, and if things went well we would move into a relationship.

    It all depends on the girl, that girl that FWB zoned you wouldn't have gone into a relationship whether or not you took it slow. So instead of having a one set plan for every girl, gauge the girl and conform to what you think you both want. It's possible she was waiting for you to make a move all this time.

    Many times with the kiss close I'll just grab the girl and pull her close to kiss, generally after I say something because there is that pause in the conversation before she can respond. Basically, as I finish my sentence I start grabbing her hand or waist and pull her towards me. You just have to be one on one with the girl to kiss; in a first date or at a crowded bar, it doesn't matter a whole lot about the external surroundings.


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