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Thread: Should i ask her to be straight up with me?

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    Default Should i ask her to be straight up with me?

    It's a long story but il try to make it as short as possible.

    This girl randomly messaged me on FB to text her, and in a couple days i did. We started to hit it off and text and what not. We hanged out 2 times and she said she had a good time. We talked about what we like and don't like and it got into personal stuff. I'm a bit shy sometimes and quiet but she said she doesnt mind. She said she likes people like me who don't talk a lot. The type of questions we asked each other is like, "are you good for me" type questions (if you know what i mean). She said she has a lot of guy friends just so i know and then followed it up by if im the jealous type. I know for sure we both liked each other and it was pretty obvious that we did. We're both 17 and school is over for us, and i never see her. Last time we talked she said she hates talking on the phone and its the same way with me so we just text. Anyways we got into a conversation where i gave her the hint taht i would ask her out, and then she said "to be honest, i like you. im not the type of person to jump into things and im not ready for any sort of relationship. this doesnt mean i dont want to talk to you, cuz i do " exact words. I understood and all was fine. We both know that we are into each other now. That week she was going to be busy and she wanted to figure out when we could hangout before next week. She was at her friends house and she left with me for a bit to hang out. We had a pretty good time, although it was a bit boring since we didn't really have anything to do, but we got into a conversation where i finally told her that i have a stuttering problem. I've had it since i was a kid, but it isn't that bad because most people dont notice it and she didnt even notice it that much. She said, "im glad you told me that" and the night went on. On the way home we still talked about a few stuff, but when i dropped her off she just said thanks and stepped out. She invited me to a small gathering before i told her that i stutter and she asked if i was going to come and i said yes. Later she said it's not happening because they one of her friends cant go to the movie or w/e. She didn't seem to have a problem with my stuttering and everything. Do you think i scared her off or something? because she hasnt texted me all day today.She did say she had plans tooday.. She sometimes texts instantly or sometimes takes a long ass time. You think her feelings have changed? I don't get it though, she liked everything about me. Any advice? She usually texts me at least once a day. When she texts me i was thinking of asking her straight up if it pushed her away and if shes still into me. Cuz i don't want to waste my time...

    We've just hanged out, we havn't gone on any dates yet. We pretty much know everything about each other though. She was also in a very long relationship but she said shes been single for about a year now. She used to text me good morning and good night and sh1t.

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    Default Re: Should i ask her to be straight up with me?

    1- Don't overthink much!

    2- Well, in most of my cases when I used sentences like "I know you like me." or "It's obvious you're into me." girls get defensive and they deny it, which may confuse you even more.

    3- If you like her, let her know! (Don't say "I like you." directly. Show it, suggest it by escalating, Kinoing.) In society, men are the leaders, men take the first step. Girls RARELY open up about relationships and RARELY take the first step. Ask her out on a real date. If you don't want to "waste" your time, get over with it. She will either reject it so you can move onto another girl or she will accept it and who knows maybe she will make an awesome girlfriend.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: Should i ask her to be straight up with me?

    17?

    Id say learn from this experience all you can...take it in....then prepare for "deployment" into college assuming your going to go to one after HS.

    Its highly possible, and from the way it sounds, your just above her level. Sounds like you want to date and race the car around the track and do the dating/relationship thing respectably, she sounds like she just wants to keep the car parked and take pictures with it.....i.e LOL she doesnt sound like shes on the same level as you and just like talking to you as a friend, thats why she said she still wants to keep in touch regardless....

    As long as your not ultra creepy or anything theres no reason you cant snag a simple date...you know whats the harm of it? Like does she think she has to put out or do something sexual? And whos to say it will make it that far? You hung out with her once how was the vibe? Was it any different from hanging out with one of your guy friends? If not then you need to move on and put your effort elsewhere.

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    Default Re: Should i ask her to be straight up with me?

    Quote Originally Posted by Dj Chill View Post
    17?

    Id say learn from this experience all you can...take it in....then prepare for "deployment" into college assuming your going to go to one after HS.

    Its highly possible, and from the way it sounds, your just above her level. Sounds like you want to date and race the car around the track and do the dating/relationship thing respectably, she sounds like she just wants to keep the car parked and take pictures with it.....i.e LOL she doesnt sound like shes on the same level as you and just like talking to you as a friend, thats why she said she still wants to keep in touch regardless....

    As long as your not ultra creepy or anything theres no reason you cant snag a simple date...you know whats the harm of it? Like does she think she has to put out or do something sexual? And whos to say it will make it that far? You hung out with her once how was the vibe? Was it any different from hanging out with one of your guy friends? If not then you need to move on and put your effort elsewhere.
    We get along very well, and i make her laugh and all that. She got out of a very long relationship but shes been single for about a year now. We talked about personal stuff and she knows im a virgin and she said shes fine with it and doesnt care. I'm guessing she doesn't want to jump into anything because she wants us to get to know each other better. She's down to hang out again, and I'll probably ask her out after that and see where that goes. She also said that she is the type of person to do her own thing and said "sorry if i dont text you a lot and stuff". I don't really mind that cuz im not a big texter anyways. I like talking in person more and what not.

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    Default Re: Should i ask her to be straight up with me?

    The next time you are with her move in close and sit next to her talk whilst running game if she is laughing, touching you, ..move in!!.


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