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    Default Can my social circle ruin my game?

    One friday I was approached by girl at bar. We had great time and met time after time during that evening. My friends left at 2am and I followed them leaving these girls behind.

    Next day I added her and her friend on facebook and texted "where you went last night".(lol) I was thinking of asking her friend to date but she then replied that she and her friend and me and my friend should have a coffee. I was thinking "why not". We then texted some more for few days and went to date week later.

    Everything went great at date and we had attraction between us but I couldnt get isolation I wanted (she tried too once but it just didnt work out). Later that night i send sms to her and said I could go to beer if she likes to join me. She replied "yeah! ".

    We set up date, now couple hours before planned time she texted me shes tired already from work and dont know if she wants to come. She says she could maybe join me if im going to nightlife (rough translation).

    Ouch, sounds like flake to me. Well I texted that I went to bar last night and stayed really late with my friends (which is of course true), and I could go to take one beer with her. Then she replied that "I have to study also for exams, I call you later and lets see". I came back with "yeah lets call". Then immediately I texted "we can go to [your part of town] so you get home early and I can go check [other part own town] out." Im not sure if thats too beta but I wanted to build comfort for her so we could make this happen.

    Thing is, everything else went great but I had some DLV with social circle. She has 10 times more friends on facebook than I do and we met up with some of them at group date also. I noticed I talked too much about my siblings which indicated that I didnt had much more going on in my life and her saying he could join with me if Im going out seems test of my social circle for me. I went out yeasterday but I dont think thats too convincing for her, I dunno maybe I over analyze too much.

    But you guys think I should force this date to happen or plan it to next week with better change of f-close happening? I just dont want that this is last time i speak with her, even thought its not too bad if I lose her now but would be great to continue this relationship.

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    Default Re: Can my social circle ruin my game?

    Struggled to read and understand all that but got there eventually!

    In answer to your title question - no your social circle shouldnt affect your game, if it isnt big then just dont talk about it, there are plenty of ways to DHV other than having lots of friends on facebook or having a big social circle. Gaming girls will infact increase your social circle over time as you'll make friends with guys, waiters, staff, all the HB's friends etc. Learn some magic tricks or something to make you interesting and stand out, this alone will increase their opinion of you more than having lots of friends on facebook..

    In response to your thread - sounds like you are being quite needy/forceful. you should never double text a girl, especially trying to set up a date. be more dominant and take control rather than just letting her getting away with flaking. If she gets away with it once she know she can just keep doing it over and over. If she still texts you/seems interested, say you've got a few free hours coming up on whatever day, and that you are going to take her to this really nice pub/cafe that you like and you'll know she'll love etc.if she flakes then ice her out dude.

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    Default Re: Can my social circle ruin my game?

    Thanks for advices Zeus, Im glad you understanded my text at some level

    So maybe I ditch the idea of dates today and when we call I go "yeah you know what I think I go hang out with my friends instead, you have nice time reading " or something. "monday would be better for me too, [cafe we went earlier] at 6pm?

    EDIT: Pure gold man thanks! Not that I dont have busy lifestyle but anyways I definitely will mention the flaking.

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    Default Re: Can my social circle ruin my game?

    Tell her that she is going to have to make it up to you for flaking on you, make her work and chase it. Make it sound like you have a busy life style and have other things you could be doing

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    Default Re: Can my social circle ruin my game?

    I hope this does not count as spam but I had to update.

    This girl texted me really late that shes dediced to go to this club and we could go drink one beer there (with smiley face). Well I thinked this for a second and then replied "I have something else now, maybe next week if I have time". She came back with "oh :|"

    It probably came through really cold and cocky but I hope she gets the point that I cant be played around like some other dudes. Also I would have liked to go which made it worse

    Well at the end of day I sticked to my decision. How in earth can I break conversation and possibly plan date to next week? I probably have to call her directly and ask whats up maybe tomorrow.

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    Default Re: Can my social circle ruin my game?

    Good bro glad you stuck to it and said you couldnt go, she'll see now that she just cant play you around and meet up when it suits her best.
    Give her a call and arrange to meet up yeah, be dominant and dont give her power or she will abuse it.

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    Default Re: Can my social circle ruin my game?

    "I have something else now, maybe next week if I have time"
    Woah man thats harsh.she may think you wanted revenge.next time in a situation like this just let her know maybe an assignment or something.
    one thing you could have done was to imply you have something going on but wil get in touch another time.

    Her reply implies she caught the vibe and her attraction should be a bit down but not out.With girls little details count.

    You need to rewind.
    you may text her this:
    got my follow up text that dae ,implied it was sent but phone was low battery..didn't verify.have to go..l8r

    you seem to like this girl and this should give you a clean slate.if you have gone ahead and done something you may spill..nothing is almost unrecoverable.

    you implied you took it personal judging from what you said.you need to flip the dynamic in your favour.PEACE

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    Default Re: Can my social circle ruin my game?

    Thanks for the advices again, I have to follow up with situation although title is already way off.

    I called this girl one day later and she didnt respond. I thinked to myself "shes history now". Two days later her friend called and ask me and my friend for BBQ. Why not? We went there yeasterday and had great time , lot of tease, flirt and IOIs (she was only one who laughed at some of my stupid sh1t) and I got to throw in some DHV also.

    I asked about last weekend and she said she got really drunk with her friends and dont want to drink for a long time. Originally my plan was to get her to go club with me at weekend since its kind of spring break here but she mentioned shes going to have a girls night then.

    I should have tried to isolate but I was counting too much on weekend. After I dropped them home after hours they were kind of slighty suprised, maybe it was too early, whatever I didnt want to kill good vibe cause I was running out of ideas where to go and what to do :P I later asked at facebook about phone call and she said she was taking a nap.

    So yeah I cant say Im happy with how things went, Im really working with my inner game, as you can see my beta side kicks in time after time. I couldnt get myself to approach this girl really cause inside I was still mad about weekend and being rejected.

    I was able to plan next lame groupie date which makes this day 4 maybe which sounds kind of bad I need to get the isolation I think this is make it or break it moment. You guys have any idiot proof isolation method for beach? Im off clubbing tomorrow but d-day is going to be sometimes next week.

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    Default Re: Can my social circle ruin my game?

    Once you realize in a group a girl is focused on you lock her in and start talking to her directly.but talking to the rest normally.run kino.then look out for iois.

    the key here is to have a good reason to move from the group.it could be you are going to get drinks for the group.or there something you want to show her.if you have being running kino, and she is attracted she will follow you.

    One other way is to lead the whole group to sit somewhere making sure you hold her hand whilst going there to make sure she sit beside you or simply guiding her.this should work if you being talking to them for a while.

    for this to work
    kino must take place with first initial contact
    and on going.
    you should be getting iois.
    am sure you will

    Lastly don't be invested or attached to any outcome too much.remember you're are in for experience if it works out fine if not on to the next.don't miss signals or sideline girls who like you.they are a part of the journey


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