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    Default Go three months without contact?

    So pretty much I'm looking for any advice/help anyone can give me. I think I'm losing it over this girl. Long story short, after a great first date - she initiated contact a few days later saying that she'd like to do it again. Since then, we've never met up. Every time I'd ask her she'd say yes, but then cancel because she was "busy" with something else. I'm in a difference country than her for the next three months. We've had no interaction for the past week, except her liking a photo on my facebook. Is it best to just completely have no contact at all for the next 3 months until I see her again? Then what?

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    Default Re: Go three months without contact?

    Yes! No contact. Save up interesting photos and stories from the other country. Send a forward to your friends of something cool from the other country after a few weeks. Don't contact her directly. You can use FB to save time but you really are aiming to get her one on one. Texting helps that IMHO.

    If she responds, wait for a while before replying. Then go cold after a few texts or so.

    After you get back, you can tell her you missed her or wanted to share stories from your trip. Remember, always act like you two shared alot of experiences before... assume rapport. And please on your trip MEET OTHER WOMEN. It will keep your mind off her!
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    Default Re: Go three months without contact?

    So no contact but text her when i get back is what you advise?

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    Default Re: Go three months without contact?

    You can text her once or twice while you're away. But again, it should be "out of the blue." Perhaps you saw an ad and it reminded you of her or something. Be indirect. If she responds, keep it fun but don't linger too much with her.

    If she does not respond, just let it be and reinitiate when you get back
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    Default Re: Go three months without contact?

    woah man can you wait that long.you should work on asking a girl out.
    when you ask her she wants to come but when the times comes she feels a bit of pressure because when they go back in their minds

    In a nutshell the way you ask girls out is crucial to getting them to come out with you and if you sound desperate or too invested it doesn't help sometimes.



    i personally would not freeze her out since the problem is kinda with you.you keep attracting and turning her a bit of.so for now lets say she is kinda attracted to you.

    if you must call you need to run game.do not build comfort too much.tell her about the interesting things you seen, and how the girls are really friendly .Trust me foreigners sometimes always gets that.

    calling her twice or a few times is fine.but shutting a girl out who is kinda into you for 3 months .

    when you come back don't ask her out yet call her once or twice and run game if you start getting ioi such as laughing at your jokes then invite her out.

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    Default Re: Go three months without contact?

    thanks for the advice guys, i really appreciate it! i should have added though that i don't have a phone that works while travelling so it'd have to be a facebook interaction. does that change anything?

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    Default Re: Go three months without contact?

    I would go three months without contacting her directly. Send an email to all your friends including her so she sees she is on the same level as your friends and nothing important.

    When you send the email out let it be a summary ... say every 2 to 3 weeks you send a short summary of crazy stuff that happened and DO NOT GO IN DETAIL. Leave it to her imagination. As for facebook, dont upload any pics until you are fully returned. The email should help paint the pictures.

    You need to play your cards right. You care about her too much. That ratio numbers will never work.

    But thats my take.
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    Default Re: Go three months without contact?

    though that to be a facebook interaction. does that change anything?
    Nope just follow sticking points you'll be fine.
    the goal is to show you are having a great time, whilst keeping in communication.

    since you seem to be passionate about this area of your life and are really willing to make this work you may present your texts here so we compare notes. PEACE

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    Default Re: Go three months without contact?

    Thanks guys! I'll leave it a few weeks and then do what you say, so I don't seem too eager. I appreciate the help.

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    Default Re: Go three months without contact?

    Quote Originally Posted by topgunningit View Post
    I would go three months without contacting her directly. Send an email to all your friends including her so she sees she is on the same level as your friends and nothing important.
    So, I really thought that this part of your advice was really important. I'd tried too hard and indicated too much interest early on. Because of this, I'm not going to contact her in any form for at least another month. I did however post on a mutual friends wall (female, they don't know each other very well), about something crazy that had happened on my trip. Thoughts?


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