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    Default Re: To needy, or time for her to chase?

    Yea, what all the posters have been saying on here is starting to become more and more true, and she just proved it right there.

    She is using you.

    Now she's getting miffed because her free fun fest is coming to a screeching halt. To answer all of your questions, to make you look the best, and to blast that girl off of her pedestal, give her the "Let's Just be Friends" speech. This is not a good girl to spend your time with, and you can definitely find better.

    Here goes how you should word it:

    "Recently, I've been doing a lot of thinking about us, and I think it would be better if we just remained friends."

    She is definitely preparred to give this speech. I know this conversation is heading in that direction. If you give this to her, then this will shock her. It will make her literally like "What the hell?" Typically, girls like this are almost never preparred for this kind of speech. This speech also makes it look like that YOU have determined that she is not good enough for you, not the other way around. This will drive her mad one way or another. She would have lost, and by the sounds of it, she won't take it lightly.

    I think the best perk of doing this is that you can leave with the satisfaction of saying that you are the better and you won in this battle against the Wicked Witch of the West. Congratulations, you are the Man who said No to her leeching ways.
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    Default Re: To needy, or time for her to chase?

    What Swag said is true.

    You have three options at this point. As Swag and others said to move on and find better. Second option is to use her as a pivot, and find better. Lastly, become her friend, run the jealous game by hitting on her friends, and then get her to chase you.

    Good luck
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    Default Re: To needy, or time for her to chase?

    Swag, I know option 1 is the best route. I don't care for her i just can't get past the fact that I let her play with my emotions. Now I just want to get back at her!! I'm bitter. The feeling of having her chase me and play with her emotions, would be my way if getting back at her. My idea was to go out with her and completely be the opposite guy she become familiar with, be that cocky / funny guy with an edge of not so nice.
    Turn the tables on her.
    Unfortunately, I think the boat has sailed away.


    I'm upset at myself, I knew better but I disregarded all the
    Red flags..

    Thanks guys for all the input..

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    Default Re: To needy, or time for her to chase?

    Is it safe to say its too late to get her to chase me?

    Swag, I like your closing line...

    I thought of another one I could send her, let me know
    What you guys think.

    Hey k**, it's too bad this amazing interaction between us has come to
    An end, (sarcasm) we should just be friends, all the best. Hasta luego mis amiga😎

    Or

    Hey, I'm pretty aware that this just isn't going to work for me. Lets just be friends, I hope we're on the same page now, and best of luck in the future , it's just not my style of dating ".

    Thoughts?

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    Default Re: To needy, or time for her to chase?

    Quote Originally Posted by slider1985 View Post
    Swag, I know option 1 is the best route. I don't care for her i just can't get past the fact that I let her play with my emotions. Now I just want to get back at her!! I'm bitter. The feeling of having her chase me and play with her emotions, would be my way if getting back at her. My idea was to go out with her and completely be the opposite guy she become familiar with, be that cocky / funny guy with an edge of not so nice.
    Turn the tables on her.
    Unfortunately, I think the boat has sailed away.


    I'm upset at myself, I knew better but I disregarded all the
    Red flags..

    Thanks guys for all the input..
    It's understandable. When something like that happens, we all want to get even somehow and turn the tables. When I got drunk on my birthday, my intoxicated self decided that I wanted to take this stuborn girl I was working on down a notch, and I told her she was boring as fark. Needless to say, she no longer talks to me, but at least her best friend still thinks I'm the greatest guy in the world.

    My story, as do many others, say this: do something directly to her, and you will become the bad guy. I know how it feels to be bitter when things don't go as you want. Life is often that way, and it's those who deal with it the best that come out on top.

    The most important thing for you to do is to not let it get to you. If you do show your bitterness and your anger, she will know that she has won, that between the two of you, she is the more desirable, more powerful person. The next thing to do is to just show that you are way happier without her. If you see her in public, don't ignore her, and don't give her sh1t either. Be nice to her, be fun, be flirty, be everything that an awesome guy would be. Tell her about all of the fun things you are doing, of how great things are going socially for you, and she will regret having treated you the way she did.
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    Default Re: To needy, or time for her to chase?

    Quote Originally Posted by slider1985 View Post
    Is it safe to say its too late to get her to chase me?

    Swag, I like your closing line...

    I thought of another one I could send her, let me know
    What you guys think.

    Hey k**, it's too bad this amazing interaction between us has come to
    An end, (sarcasm) we should just be friends, all the best. Hasta luego mis amiga😎

    Or

    Hey, I'm pretty aware that this just isn't going to work for me. Lets just be friends, I hope we're on the same page now, and best of luck in the future , it's just not my style of dating ".

    Thoughts?
    To answer your first question, the only way to get her to chase you is to break up with her. There's no way to get her to chase you in your current relationship circumstances, and I wouldn't even do it myself. This woman just sounds bad, and I don't want to put myself up with her. The only benefit of getting her to chase you is to be able to show to everyone that your value is so high that a girl like her can't even maintain power over you. This is an attractive trait to have, and both men and women will respect you more for it.

    As for the other responses, I don't like the first one. It's too cocky, and she can use that to her advantage. The second response is actually way better than what I came up with. It brings about reference to the fact of how she has been treating you, and it makes clear that you do not tolerate for these kinds of relationships. Most importantly, it's respectful and maintains grace in closing. No signs of jealousy or negativity, just kindness to the bitter end.

    Good work on that one Slider
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    Default Re: To needy, or time for her to chase?

    Thanks so much for all the help. To be honest this experience lit a fire inside me that wants to better himself with women. It's time to start pua training..

    One last thing, I agree with option 2. She will be taken back by this and will almost immediately respond.
    Do I respond back or freeze out for good? Will that come across as bitter?

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    Default Re: To needy, or time for her to chase?

    Freeze out for good. Don't talk to her, don't do anything in terms of texting. As I said in a previous post, however, if you do see her in public, don't be a d1ck. Be nice and curteous, because that will look the best for yourself.
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    Default Re: To needy, or time for her to chase?

    She responded;

    Her:We are absolutely on the same page! Your silence today was the last drop.

    Her: Honestly, you pissed me off by this msg so badly! After all those long conversations you didn't get a thing about me! ("This i can say is complete bullshit")

    an hour later:

    Her: I think I overreacted... I guess because you did first what I was about to say but I truly believe we can be a sort of friends...So, no offences. Everything is good ok?

    Shes completely bull shitting, quite honestly if it wasn't for me there would have been no conversation. I was doing all the work. After 2 months of dating she barley new a thing about me and still doesn't know or care what i do for a living.
    A great girl friend of mine told me this is a type of girl with major insecure issues and values her self so highly she put herself on the pedestal.
    Anyhow, I won't be responding to her question.

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    Default Re: To needy, or time for her to chase?

    Quote Originally Posted by slider1985 View Post
    She responded;

    Her:We are absolutely on the same page! Your silence today was the last drop.

    Her: Honestly, you pissed me off by this msg so badly! After all those long conversations you didn't get a thing about me! ("This i can say is complete bullsh1t")

    an hour later:

    Her: I think I overreacted... I guess because you did first what I was about to say but I truly believe we can be a sort of friends...So, no offences. Everything is good ok?

    Shes completely bull sh1tting, quite honestly if it wasn't for me there would have been no conversation. I was doing all the work. After 2 months of dating she barley new a thing about me and still doesn't know or care what i do for a living.
    A great girl friend of mine told me this is a type of girl with major insecure issues and values her self so highly she put herself on the pedestal.
    Anyhow, I won't be responding to her question.
    Good man, that's the right way to go. You can also see how effective turning the tables on her was

    Anyways, your friend girl is right, and you are right. The relationship was unfairly skewed, and there was no way she was going to give up control of it. I also wouldn't be surprised if she did have insecurity issues. She puts herself into a world where she needs to do whatever she can in order to tell herself that it is reality. In actuality, it isn't.

    In the end, you are going to sleep well. I can't say the same, for her though. Her perfect virtual reality just broke, and I wouldn't be surprised if you saw her go on a rapid streak with other men. She needs some way to reassure herself and fix herself, but it's not going to be a nice road for her either way.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X


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