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Thread: How do I deal with a girl that swings around?

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    Default How do I deal with a girl that swings around?

    I've had this pop up occasionally where this girl that I've tried to flirt with just texts me out of the clear blue. I've had one successful instance where this has happened, and I managed to get a good ball rolling and some private in-person interaction with her.

    I just had this again occur to me. Usually, when this happens I suspect it is just out of boredom. So my main goal is to try and use that boredom to my advantage, and create an entertaining conversation that she would want to interact in. Here's how I responded to this one:

    Her: Hey what's up
    Me: Chilling at the street party in _city_ How about you?

    I'm aiming to creat interest and spark up a conversation. My plan is to just push it through like a normal public interaction, and then I will cut it short, but see if she wants to meet up and go to a musical that is at my alma mater tomorrow night. If she doesn't, then oh well, I'm still going though.

    Thoughts on this? How do you normally deal with something like this?
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    Default Re: How do I deal with a girl that swings around?

    Be blunt but not too much. Well thats what I do.



    Her: Hey what's up
    Me: Why are you texting me you should be calling you know the rules

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    Her: Hey what's up
    Me: Come on now, use something more creative ... like meeting up in 10mins and no BS
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    Default Re: How do I deal with a girl that swings around?

    This is an interesting way of thinking about it that I haven't before. Next time such an occasion rolls around, I'll be sure to use something like this. Thanks gunningit!
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    Default Re: How do I deal with a girl that swings around?

    Quote Originally Posted by topgunningit View Post
    Be blunt but not too much. Well thats what I do.



    Her: Hey what's up
    Me: Why are you texting me you should be calling you know the rules

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    Her: Hey what's up
    Me: Come on now, use something more creative ... like meeting up in 10mins and no BS


    I actually like these lines. My only problem is that I get mad too easily. ( when a girl texts me out of the blue and we haven't talked in a while I think it's because she's bored then my brain starts thinking " hahaha you're her second option when she's bored") how do I get rid of those thoughts? I have a huge ego and pride by the way
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    Default Re: How do I deal with a girl that swings around?

    Quote Originally Posted by marvilo View Post
    I actually like these lines. My only problem is that I get mad too easily. ( when a girl texts me out of the blue and we haven't talked in a while I think it's because she's bored then my brain starts thinking " hahaha you're her second option when she's bored") how do I get rid of those thoughts? I have a huge ego and pride by the way
    Well look at it from this way. If you are on a team and you have been on the bench the entire season and for some reason you get a chance to play your first game ... you take the opportunity to shine because when you do you can stick it to the coach's face and everyone else who doubted you.

    The greatest payback is revenge. Not revenge in a insane/psychotic way but revenge as in a success way. Once you established success, you have the upper hand because she has to prove herself to you and that point you have the power.
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