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    Default Very Shy Girl...Complicated Situation

    Met this girl at a dance hall.....Got her number....she texted me the next day to meet her and a friend at another dancehall. I brought a friend with me but this girl was unbelievebly shy. I didnt think this girl was into me but she started texting me on a daily basis(she mostly iniated all the texts), found out she was even messaging a friend of mine on facebook about me. Background on the girl is shes 25 and was merried for 5 years...been divorced for 8 months(man cheated on her). Anyways i tried to set up a date with this girl, but she told me to go over to her apartment instead. After about an hour of her being crazy shy and some alcohol at the apartment i told her to snuggle with me... and finally she let loose and we had sex on and off for about 2 hours. We again texted everyday for the next week and set up a date. On the date she seemed to be feeling more comfortable and we were talking and laughing and having a good time yet not much physical contact. When I walked her to her car she asked if maybe I wanted to meet up with her and her gf's from out of town after a concert the next day...i said yeah that sounds good. Well she started getting super shy again and when we were saying bye she stuck out her arm almost like to give me a handshake. I said what are you doing lol and grabbed her and hugged her....I was going to kiss her but her head was turned away from me and and she let go of me quickly. So I left the date kinda confused but then she texted 10 minutes later saying she really had fun thanx again. I said me too and im not gonna lie i wanted to kiss you goodbye. She texted me you should of and i texted her back i will next time. The convo ended like that so the next day i texted her have fun at the concert and she texted back.. Hey its gonna be a girls night tonight maybe we can hang out another time. I just texted her back sounds good. What do you guys make of this situation....How should I handle this?...what should be my next step?...Im intersted in dating this girl not just sex or a fwb situation.

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    Default Re: Very Shy Girl...Complicated Situation

    it seems to be pretty perfect to me, do what you're doing and do bf/gf stuff and then propose you two be together officially

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    Default Re: Very Shy Girl...Complicated Situation

    I wouldn't rush for the boyfriend girlfriend now since she got divorced.keep the attraction thing going and for the record don't tell a girl you wanted to kiss her it not bad but rather don't feature it but next time you may go for it.
    like hyp said you can do the bf gf thing but also i think make it subtle.Don't forget to keep your options open.

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    Default Re: Very Shy Girl...Complicated Situation

    Update....We had talked about what we wanted from each other and me and her had both agreed we didnt want anything serious right now....get to know each other...whatever happens, happens. Well today she starts talking to my buddy on facebook and starts telling him she thinks im confused lol....that shes not ready for anything serious, whatever happens happens. I let her know i talked to my friend and me and her start texting and i ask her if theres some things she wants to clear up? She texts me back she really likes me, I text her back I really like her too. She then proceeds to tell me the same thing we had already talked about and what she told my friend about not wanting anything serious right now..whatever happens, happens. She texts me "do I want a relationship?" I text back I agree, lets get to know each other, have fun, and whatever happens, happens. she text me back "lol...your funny." I ask her if theres anything else you want to talk about just so we are on the same page...she says no. What do you guys make of this? WE had already disccuesd what we want from each other probably about 3 times so why is she bringing it up again? How do u think I handled this situtaion? How do you think I should proceed?

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    Default Re: Very Shy Girl...Complicated Situation

    How do you think I should proceed?
    start by reading your initial statement, she's not ready for a relationship - only casual stuff in which she's said where you told us

    Im intersted in dating this girl not just sex or a fwb situation.

    i think you're just agreeing with her terms because you're afraid of losing her completely if you can't have a relationship with her
    -i'm not saying don't, i'm saying it'll end bad if you want A and she wants B truly

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    Default Re: Very Shy Girl...Complicated Situation

    Going flat out and telling her right now could make it look like she made you feel. sometimes girls like to think they were chosen it was your idea.but since she kind of hinted it now still play cool for a bit.you have done nothing wrong but if you cave in just like that you may kill the challenge.So still keep being the attractive guy in her life.if she brings it up again then tell her you wil fill her in soon.then decide on what you really want.

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    Default Re: Very Shy Girl...Complicated Situation

    FSo I think I messed up pretty bad. We went on a lunch date on Friday and we met there. Right when she got out of her car she said she had a cut on her lip and I used that opportunity to go in for a kiss. I did kiss her but there was obvious resistence. I just blew it off and we went to go eat. While we were eating she was bringing up how she has so many guy friends, how she might be going to to see a movie with one later, I think I handled the comments pretty good. Then she mentioned she probabaly wasn't going to see a movie later so I told her let's hang out after lunch....she said she wasn't sure, but I kept being persistent but she kept saying no, just coming up with different excuses. Then I told her it doesn't seem like you like me, and she said she did and asked if I was hanging out with friends tonight...I said maybe and she said let her know. So as we are saying goodbye I pull her in for a hug...it last 3 seconds but I pull her back in...we probably do this about 4 times and she keeps saying people are watching. I pull her in again and kiss her but there was resistence again, and I tell her bye. As I'm driving home I let my emotions take over and I call her and tell her it doesn't seem like you like me...how come when I try to kiss you or hug you you resist. She says she's shy, she doesn't lile pda, and she does like me and thinks I'm cool. She then asks if that's why I'm calling and I say yeah. Anyways I text her around 9ish and tell her I'm not going to be hanging out with friends that I'm going out of town instead...she never replied. So my question is....how bad did I mess up?, what can I do to fix it? Should I let her contact me first?

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    Default Re: Very Shy Girl...Complicated Situation

    You shouldn't have kept asking her if she liked you.

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    Default Re: Very Shy Girl...Complicated Situation

    Quote Originally Posted by bk1019 View Post
    FSo I think I messed up pretty bad. We went on a lunch date on Friday and we met there. Right when she got out of her car she said she had a cut on her lip and I used that opportunity to go in for a kiss. I did kiss her but there was obvious resistence. I just blew it off and we went to go eat. While we were eating she was bringing up how she has so many guy friends, how she might be going to to see a movie with one later, I think I handled the comments pretty good. Then she mentioned she probabaly wasn't going to see a movie later so I told her let's hang out after lunch....she said she wasn't sure, but I kept being persistent but she kept saying no, just coming up with different excuses. Then I told her it doesn't seem like you like me, and she said she did and asked if I was hanging out with friends tonight...I said maybe and she said let her know. So as we are saying goodbye I pull her in for a hug...it last 3 seconds but I pull her back in...we probably do this about 4 times and she keeps saying people are watching. I pull her in again and kiss her but there was resistence again, and I tell her bye. As I'm driving home I let my emotions take over and I call her and tell her it doesn't seem like you like me...how come when I try to kiss you or hug you you resist. She says she's shy, she doesn't lile pda, and she does like me and thinks I'm cool. She then asks if that's why I'm calling and I say yeah. Anyways I text her around 9ish and tell her I'm not going to be hanging out with friends that I'm going out of town instead...she never replied. So my question is....how bad did I mess up?, what can I do to fix it? Should I let her contact me first?
    You should not have asked her whether she likes you that way.you are supposed to take the reigns and lead and not put it all on the woman..
    when you ask a girl whether she likes you and she did it really lowers your value.

    The way she allowed you kiss her in public proved she kinda likes you.next time you may opt in for kiss close.

    when she asked is that why you called?she might have had high expectations of you.no worries.
    freeze her out for a bit and the reengage.


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