Hey guys, I could use some help here.
Some background info on me is that the game is pretty new knowledge to me, I am interested in the game because I have never pursued a girl, they have always pursued me. I would say my pros are I am confident, strong (I mean mentally but also very physically fit, I wrestled in college), good looking, and intelligent. Think captain of a college wrestling team but with a nerd side. I would say my cons are that I am quiet at first and have trouble making conversation until I know someone, I can make things a bit awkward at first because I try to hard to act comfortable, and physically I'm short. That being said, I have never had trouble making a move on a girl after flirting but the girls have always flirted with me first. Also, a few months ago, I ended a 3 year relationship with a great girl that found me via Facebook stalking, kinda weird but it was flattering. Anyways, I am ready to pursue a girl but I don't know what the best way is to initiate flirting with a particular girl.
Background info on the girl, she was also an athlete but more focused on academics, very intelligent, I would say hb8 or hb9 but the classy type. I don't think she was ever in a relationship in college but I couldn't say for sure. Think typical good girl, close with family, intelligent, but super down to earth and very kind.
She and I were acquaintances (at best) at big college. We were both athletes so we pretty much knew each other by default, at a lot of the same banquets, and stuff like that. We never hung out or talked more than "hey, how are you?" type of talk in college but she is a year ahead of me and I just graduated and she is finishing her first year in the work force. I knew that she traveled a lot for her job and I am starting a job in St. Louis, so I thought it was worth looking into. I messaged her on Facebook and we talked back and forth for awhile until I got her number and we messaged for awhile. I found out she is on a long term project an hour from STL and flies in and out of the airport all the time. So, my first weekend in STL she happened to be working and had Sunday off so I asked her to meet up. She said she was already planning to meet her other girlfriend in STL to go to the Arch but asked me to join. Of course I said yes and suggested brunch before. Her friend ended up canceling last minute so it was just us doing brunch and visiting the arch together. I think it went well but very platonic, mind you it was our first time ever talking more than a few words. She talked a lot and I listened, nodded, and agreed a lot (but not just to agree). There was never an awkward moment but I also felt like any type of flirting would be forced. We hugged when we left and said the normal goodbye, see ya around type stuff.
I texted here an AFC type text later that day saying something like "I had a great time. I would love to get together again. Hopefully its sooner rather than later." She responded and we carried on limited texting throughout the week.
She always responds to my texts but it can sometimes be a day or so later but she also works like 60 hours between Mon-Thurs, so I understand why she doesn't get back right away and she always apologizes if it's been a while. I still can't tell if she is just that genuinely nice or if she is interested in me and just isn't used to dating.
So I am pretty sure we will hang out again and I'm trying to frame it more like a date this time, possibly go to a baseball game together but I'm afraid if I let another meet up go without moving forward, all will be lost.
Sorry for any erroneous information but I'm really interested in seeing where this could go so I want all the information on the table. I wouldn't even say I have a crush on this girl but on paper she is perfect relationship material for me and I want to see if we something will spark if I start flirting. So, I would love any suggestions on how you guys might go about this situation. Thanks for reading and even more for responding!