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Thread: Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

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    Default Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

    Ok so I have been on this fairly strict fat loss regimen lately except when it comes to Drinking. Going out to drink is rare for me and more trying to work on day game but that is off topic.
    Now because my finely chiseled features are starting to materialize, I have noticed that drunk girls actually started to approach me from time to time which is great because I am still stuggling with approach anxiety.

    Any way such a circumstance happened on friday night while I was doing a half drunken stumble down the strip with my friends.
    She came right to me, ignored my friends we hit it off a bit, and went to a bar to get more drinks, started to build some very light kino just some hand holding here and there and eye contact IOIs were present. We were also into the same shit: both into music prod ect. Deep conversations were starting to happen.

    So out of nowhere up comes this dude behind her who kind of grabs her an pulls her aside. They come back a minute later and she introduces him as her Boyfriend: an amiable enough person I guess. Her boyfriend leaves after telling her not to get to drunk because they are doing something tomorrow and she seemed kind of pissed about that.

    Anyway so I was planning on taking her home that night but that whole situation kind of threw me off track. After he left, our rapport got even better but I couldn`t take the steps I needed to take close. (I am still an inexperienced closer)

    So I basically got her number verified it worked and saved my name in her phone with a tag that would make her remember who I am.

    Now I am faced with 2 problems:
    1. I have to figure out how to deal with her boyfriend
    2. I have to text her which I HATE doing.

    I have found that if I don`t close the deal on the spot my chances go down dramatically on the callbacks. This is also why I gave up on POF.
    So I need some pre-emptive help this time to see if I can avoid screwing it up, if I have not already done so.

    She will not be in the emotional state and likely will have forgotten all about her feelings for me. I need to come up with a good text that will engage her emotions and remind her of our connection what should I do?

    I was thinking of saying something like "hey do you think if I asked nicely Mike Tyson would sell me his tiger?"

    Also what are your thoughts on her BF, I do not want to turn into a shoulder to cry on about how she hates her BF. How can I deal with her BF?

    My time window is closing since this happened friday night and it is already sunday. Help please.

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    Default Re: Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

    I would've still asked her to leave with me like " aww you seem sad lets get out of hear and grab a quick meal at this fantastic place I know of. Don't worry your bf wouldn't know we're gone". The fantastic place would end up bein your house, then you can say " I hear the chief is an handsome young squire" something like that. ( in the pua world it doesn't matter about her bf if she's willing to come with you. You ended up getting her number man so she must have thought you was cool)
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    Default Re: Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

    Lol, she was drunk and has a BF and you wanna phuck her AFTER that night. Shoulda got it that night bro delete number move on

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    Default Re: Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheMufasa View Post
    Lol, she was drunk and has a BF and you wanna phuck her AFTER that night. Shoulda got it that night bro delete number move on

    Exactly what I was saying. But I still think he can recover and still fark her.
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    Default Re: Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheMufasa View Post
    Lol, she was drunk and has a BF and you wanna phuck her AFTER that night. Shoulda got it that night bro delete number move on
    I wouldn't mind it would still be kinda funny. I pretty sure I acknowledged that mistake and everyone would obviously agree is what I should have done.

    I am now trying to assess if it is even worth contacting her. I think it is probably best to just make sure I focus on same day closing exclusively.

    But just as learning excercise, it might be useful to get some real perspective on how to proceed from here in terms of triggering that emotional state again from the phone, and doing it at time where the probability is low that her BF is around who I am certain she harbors a reasonable amount of resentment towards.

    I realize it is a low probability situation and do not really care. But a good salesman follows up on every lead.

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    Default Re: Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

    Quote Originally Posted by enemyspy View Post
    I wouldn't mind it would still be kinda funny. I pretty sure I acknowledged that mistake and everyone would obviously agree is what I should have done.

    I am now trying to assess if it is even worth contacting her. I think it is probably best to just make sure I focus on same day closing exclusively.

    But just as learning excercise, it might be useful to get some real perspective on how to proceed from here in terms of triggering that emotional state again from the phone, and doing it at time where the probability is low that her BF is around who I am certain she harbors a reasonable amount of resentment towards.

    I realize it is a low probability situation and do not really care. But a good salesman follows up on every lead.

    You can't always get a same night close, my friend. Learn from you mistake and don't beat yourself up. You did great! I think you should still try to talk to her( don't get in the mindset of always trying to f-close a girl, that will mess up how you think about girls, especially the ones you may really like)
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    Default Re: Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

    Yeah I will still try to talk to her, maybe I should wait til the middle of monday and try and shoot blindly for lunch break at work and hope her BF is not around policing her phone?

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    Default Re: Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

    If she was gonna bang you, it woulda been that night. There's an exception to every rule, but that is the general rule.

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    Default Re: Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

    Yeah should've just gone for the full close that night. I would just ignored the fact that she had a bf and not even bought it up unless prompted.

    If you have her number then take a shot but I'd honestly wonder whether this girl is even worth it. I HATE cheaters with a passion, so personally I'd of just escalated as far as possible then blown her off.

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    Default Re: Everything was going great until her boyfriend showed up...now what?

    It all depends on her relationship with him. If it's a great relationship, then I agree with Mufasa: It ain't happening. If the relationship is sub-par or lower, then you might have a shot. I would say in the meantime to aim to just be friends, if you want to go anywhere with her.

    With all of that said, I do agree with sidewinder. I absolutely hate to ruin a good relationship. If it is a terrible one, and I believe the girl to be innocent, then I'll go through the process of destroying it and freeing her.
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