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Thread: Number closed in 2 minutes. Need help.

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    Default Number closed in 2 minutes. Need help.

    Went out to watch the Finals game the other night at a bar/restaurant with a friend and a bunch of his friends.

    When him and I showed up we pulled 2 chairs to the end of the booth and the girls were at the far end and I was surrounded by guys who were trying to act alpha all night (FML).

    So I just did my thing watched the game and at the end when the rest were going to another bar, me and the HB7/8 went back to the parking lot. We met, spoke, and she showed about 8 IOS (playing with hair, sounded excited to talk to me, stood still while I almost parted away, ) all in about 3-5 minutes tops of talking. She IOI'd the whole conversation. Told her to add me on fb, but she didn't know my full name so I just told her to put her number in and we'll keep in touch over the phone instead.

    Texted her 30 minutes after "Happy to run into you - *****". She wrote back 2 minutes later "nice meeting you "

    Remember 3 minutes (pretty much just spoke about school, she told me her ex goes to mine so I pretty quickly got off that subject, spoke about my campus and said I had to go) so I'm thinking this may result in a flake, but what is my best bet here?

    "Hey **** you seem cool last night, why don't we continue the conversation over lunch sometime this week, how does your week look?"

    As of now that's what I would probably say that^

    Oh and I did know the waitress who was dressed very sexy hb8/9 (DHV)

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    Default Re: Number closed in 2 minutes. Need help.

    Don't ask her to go out again so soon. You should first aim to build up some attraction and rapport. Wait a couple of days, and then open her with something that references back to the night at the bar. Preferably, it should be a fun moment or am inside joke that the two of you thoroughly enjoyed.

    This won't end in a flake if you do everything correctly. Just keep your head screwed on straight and you should be fine. As for the waitress, feel free to game her too. That is, if that is your style
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    Default Re: Number closed in 2 minutes. Need help.

    Never ask for a facebook ever again.

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    Default Re: Number closed in 2 minutes. Need help.

    Quote Originally Posted by lilsting View Post
    Never ask for a facebook ever again.
    Agreed. You should always aim for a phone number. If you get a Facebook instead when asking for a number, it's a potential sign of disinterest or uncertainty over whether she likes you or not. Since there's too much to debate over whether it is one negative aspect or the other, your best bet would be to then forget about it. If you were to ask for her Facebook instead, then that really puts you into a gray zone that may result in a lot of extra effort for nothing.

    Don't go after the Facebook when the number can give you a whole lot more info. That's the end conclusion.
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    Default Re: Number closed in 2 minutes. Need help.

    Thanks a lot for the extra knowledge and confidence boost.

    The reason I asked for facebook by the way was because I knew she didn't know my full name and would result in a number, and just like you guys are saying, adding her on facebook was to make it seem like maybe I was disinterested in her. Still a bad idea? Just be confident and go for number regardless?

    Only thing I can think of is saying

    "Just thinking about it, you're very outgoing! Last time I met someone in a brief walk up the steps was probably in kindergarten on the way back from P.E. class"

    What do you think about that one^? I would send it today (Tuesday, but late afternoon)... Met her Sunday Night

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    Default Re: Number closed in 2 minutes. Need help.

    Quote Originally Posted by puaoneday View Post
    Thanks a lot for the extra knowledge and confidence boost.
    No problem. Glad we could make an impact on ya

    Quote Originally Posted by puaoneday View Post
    The reason I asked for facebook by the way was because I knew she didn't know my full name and would result in a number, and just like you guys are saying, adding her on facebook was to make it seem like maybe I was disinterested in her. Still a bad idea? Just be confident and go for number regardless?
    It took me a couple of times to read through this to understand what it was saying. Now I got the right idea though.

    With that said, I think that your approach has the potential for some severe backfire. If you told her to add you on Facebook, and she just goes "OK!", and leaves, you're basically farked. In addition, you should always be going for the number. It's a solid indicator of interest, unlike a Facebook, and rarely is a Facebook close considered a huge success. Don't focus the conversation on ending with a number close, but when the time comes around to it, do not even let the word "Facebook" pop into your head.

    Quote Originally Posted by puaoneday View Post
    Only thing I can think of is saying

    "Just thinking about it, you're very outgoing! Last time I met someone in a brief walk up the steps was probably in kindergarten on the way back from P.E. class"

    What do you think about that one^? I would send it today (Tuesday, but late afternoon)... Met her Sunday Night
    The timing is pretty solid. The first message is whatever. I'm not laughing at it (no offense ), but I'm not sure what your highlights of the conversation were. Usually, your first message should be something that references something memorable, like an inside joke, or a funny moment that she enjoyed, from the night at the bar. If she were to read a message with those qualities, it would cause her to think of you positively, and remember all of the fun moments that came in that short interaction with you. It will motivate her and inspire her to really interact with you. Why? Because she wants more of you.
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    Default Re: Number closed in 2 minutes. Need help.

    Makes 100% sense.

    Since she's already into me I can just go for the number, which has far greater potential and when she gives, it is a clear IOi.

    Something better to text is probably about her getting up for ice cream with her friends in the middle of the game. "So Ben and Jerry's tonight? Or heat game? Cuz I know you can't do both :P" Even though it wasn't directly a moment we shared, and didnt even know each other at the time, it associates me with a more positive, vivid memory, and through me she relives those.


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