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Thread: Some More Text Advice

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    Default Some More Text Advice

    Any advice on this text follow-up? Should I pursue? Ignore? Tell her a raincheck will do?

    the_Fauve: "Hey I'm doing some shopping & rambling in the Mish on Sunday. You should join me."

    HB9: "Ah can't, Sunday I'm going to yoga and lunch with Allison. Enjoy yourself though!"

    the_Fauve: "Is she going to be upset you canceled on her?"

    HB9: "No canceling on her, I haven't seen her in months!"

    I left it here. Not sure if I should just say f' it, wait for another opportunity, walk away, or if I do text back, what I should text back.

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    Default Re: Some More Text Advice

    It's probably possible to get her to cancel and change plans, but not without some serious badgering and manipulation, and even then it'd probably plant a seed of resentment. Personally I don't fight uphill battles.

    Yeah I'm at a loss for how to follow that up without sounding beta. Maybe something like, "A girl's gotta stay in shape, I suppose." and then maybe "Maybe you can show me some moves and get some extra-curricular practice- sometime [this week/next week/on (whatever)day]?"
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    Default Re: Some More Text Advice

    The advice I always give when you tell a girl to join you to do an activity, drinks or go for coffee and she says no to go do that activity yourself.

    So go shopping and ramble. Get some pics taken of you when you are shopping. Try on crazy, pimping ridiculous clothes. Get the girl working at the store that is helping you out to take a few pics.

    Then send the pics to your target and text her on what an AWESOME time she missed out on. Exaggerate how great the day was.

    Then play it cool until she makes contact with you. Make her work for the date because she said no to you before.

    The pics help establish that with or without her that you are a man who does what he wants and when he wants. All phones have cameras use the technology to your advantage.

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    Default Re: Some More Text Advice

    Thanks you two. Still definitely plan on going, but now will send some pics. Of note: texted her back with "A girls gotta stay in shape, I suppose. Work those downward dogs."

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    Default Re: Some More Text Advice

    Quote Originally Posted by the_Fauve View Post

    the_Fauve: "Hey I'm doing some shopping & rambling in the Mish on Sunday. You should join me."

    HB9: "Ah can't, Sunday I'm going to yoga and lunch with Allison. Enjoy yourself though!"
    You asked her out perfectly in the first text. She might of been legitimately busy...either way it doesn't matter. You can't make a big deal when a girl flakes. I'd reply with:

    "It's cool. I'll invite someone else. Have fun at yoga!"

    Don't text her again for a couple of days, unless she texts you first. When you finally do text her, make sure its funny or interesting and not something that every other guy would text her.
    Here are a couple non-needy random texts I might send a girl to get her attention:

    "The craziest thing just happened!" (Then go into a funny story after she replies)

    "Almost just vehicular man-slaughtered a jogger. Missed this lady by inches. lol"

    "Weird Phenomenon: the amount of socks that come out of my dryer never equals the amount I originally put in!"

    As long as its not something boring like what most AFC guys would text with like "Hey, how are you?" or "How was your weekend." Learn to be creative.

    Never delete a girls number either. You might be able to re-initiate contact with her months down the road. Her circumstances might change and she could be more open to a date later on. Goodluck!

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    Default Re: Some More Text Advice

    Quote Originally Posted by Dizzie View Post
    You asked her out perfectly in the first text. She might of been legitimately busy...either way it doesn't matter. You can't make a big deal when a girl flakes. I'd reply with:

    "It's cool. I'll invite someone else. Have fun at yoga!"
    Don't do it. Mainly because you're conveying that you became affected by her rejection (even though you might not be, that's what appears).
    Then, even though your answer would be "It's cool. Have fun at yoga!"... why would you reply this? It's pointless.

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    Default Re: Some More Text Advice

    Quote Originally Posted by lenric View Post
    Don't do it. Mainly because you're conveying that you became affected by her rejection (even though you might not be, that's what appears).
    Then, even though your answer would be "It's cool. Have fun at yoga!"... why would you reply this? It's pointless.
    "It's cool. I'll invite someone else."

    I've used this response a few times on flakes personally. I've never had a negative reaction to it. I then wait a few days and re-engage them again or they end up texting me first. It works the best if the date was obviously for two people and on the first couple of dates only. I wouldn't use it in an established relationship for clear reasons.

    You are telling her that your life will go on with out her and you have other interesting people to share it with. Dave_xxx's whole going on the date anyway and sending her pictures is great too. I actually plan on trying that next time I find myself in this situation.

    When she flakes, you are losing value no matter how you look at it. Girls that I think are more likely to flake I'll go with something I'm already doing with a group:

    "We're heading to X bar tonight. You should show face."

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    Default Re: Some More Text Advice

    You're right, that's why I think no answer is more appropriate than "I'm inviting someone else. Have fun!".

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    Default Re: Some More Text Advice

    I don't feel as confident about dave_xxx's strategy. This sort of "look how much fun I had without you nyah na na na na na" is the kind of passive-aggressive manipulation that any girl with a modicum of insight is going to see through instantly.
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    Default Re: Some More Text Advice

    Thanks gentleman. All good considerations, and given the input, I've gone back and forth on a few things. I've got some strategizing to do...or just enjoying myself and sayin f it!

    Also in consideration--she texted me today, somewhat unexpectedly. If anyone is curious about human interactions it went something like this.

    HB9: "Well lookie here, looks as someone is getting some pizza on Friday." (She works at pizza place at night for extra cash, and they deliver lunches on Friday to my place of work. She sent a picture of the receipt.)
    the_Fauve: "$Large Pepperoni? Was that your suggestion?" (that was an item on the receipt, how it appeared including dollar sign)
    HB9: "CHZ!" (another item on the receipt)
    the_Fauve: no response (dgaf)


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