Met this girl online, we kind of clicked. I'm 24, she's 19. She's very mature for her age and very intelligent. She's very blunt too.
We went on a dinner date after a few phone conversations. It goes ok. She resists my attempt to kiss her. She later texts me with an apology for her "awkwardness". I say no worries, and ask her evening was going. No reply.
So, I decide to wait, not send her anything. She eventually sends me a single word text 2 days later "hello". I wait 4 hrs before calling her up to chat.
This is where things go wrong.
I joked that she didn't have a sense of humor, and negged her on something else. She didn't like this, and started to say she needed to get back to what she was doing. I said ok, and hung up.
Now, me being a doofus, I start texting her apologizing for being a dick, and that I had fun with her the other night, etc, etc. Also, that next time I have something awesome planned. She says something along the lines of "and what would that be?". I call her again an hour later (as I said I would in the text) and she's still not really in the mood to talk, and wants to read instead. I say ok, and ask her what her schedule is for this week before hanging up. She said she's going to be busy. I hang up, and send her one last text:
"you seem perturbed"
Being the blunt person that she is, she responds (and I'm paraphrasing):
"dude, seriously, you need to dial things back a bit"
I didn't reply.
I think I self-destructed on this one. I'm not going to contact her again this week, as she'll be busy anyway. Should I even reply to her text? I always do this. I'm a people pleaser, and felt like I needed to rectify the situation, not necessarily that she's a girl I'm interested in so much as a person I've offended and feel bad for.
I'm not entirely convinced we're even compatible. She barely even thanked me after I drove 1 hr to her, paid for dinner, got her flowers (as she told me ahead of time is something she appreciates). I feel like I'm doing a lot for a girl who's just KIND OF interested. I think I'm answering my own question.
Thoughts? Assuming I still like her, how can I recover?