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    Ternarydaemon is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Initial texting with lost Tinder gal

    So, I got her number four months ago from Tinder, asked her out, flaked because her business had a problem. Deleted her number (angry beta move). I am 29, she is 32, both yuppies working for large corporations.

    3 months later, I sent her a text believing she was a friend from gym. Her number was still in iphone’s memory but not assigned to her name. Brief conversation, she told me she was that gal from tinder If I remembered her, etc, and she said when could we know each other.

    Called her next day for Thursday drinks, and went. Her business is real, so the flake was probably legit. I told her beforehand I had to go to another party, but she invited me to his friend’s flat for an open house. Went for a couple hours, talked and laughed with her friends. No kiss, minimum kino (ocassionaly grabbed shoulders, arms, etc). Called her Wednesday night, no reply, she texted 10 mins later saying she was at work, I textedher to tell me when she was out (so I could call her). She texted me midnight saying sorry, I went for dinner with friends. I sent a message (but did not called as to not being pushy) Thursday to ask for Friday night drinks. She replied 2 hours later in friendly tone manner saying she had a bachelorette party.

    So, here are the facts: 3 IOIs: (i) she remembered me (or had my phone saved); (ii) she asked when should we know each other; and (iii) invited the guy she just met 2 hours before to his childhood friend's place.

    I have kept messaging to a minimum. My plan is no contact until next Wednesday noon where I will ask her for the weekend.

    What do the masters think of the IOIs? Is my plan of minimum contact sound?

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    Default Re: Initial texting with lost Tinder gal

    I'm not an expert but I see I couple mistakes you've made that are attraction killers and broke some rules of the game I think I should point out to you. After she gave you the first IOI say now she wanted to get to know each other, you shouldn't have shown that you were available right away by calling the next day and setting something out, you should have made her earn your IOI to her, made her earn your attention maybe by using the catsring theory, push and pull and made yourself a little more challenging.
    Also, never buy a woman anything (drinks included) unless you are sleeping with her or she bought you something of at least equal value. You should have tell her to meet you for coffee, buy yourself some coffe, and if she ask for one just tell her "it is against your rules, you don't buy strangers stuff, but she can pay for the first time and after you get to know her you'll pay next time". Remember treats are only for women you sleep with or treated you before, as a positive reinforcement.
    Then, but changing your plans to go to her friends house, you gave her more power as if her plans were more important than yours; but at least by going there you should have k-closed her to let her know it's on!!
    Finally, when you ask her to text you and she text you hours later saying she went out for dinner with friends, you don't you DONT text her the next day to invite her for drinks, that's reinforcing her bad behavior, instead you punish her by freezing her out a little, to let her know that's not the way to go.
    If you forget everything I wrote, please at least remember one thing, "economics 101", generate scarcity in people minds to increase the value of your product.

    Nikee --just do it, coz I just did it--
    Nikee --Just did it--

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    Ternarydaemon is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Initial texting with lost Tinder gal

    Ok the message next day was a mistake. She did answered, that sounded good, but had a bachelorette paty. Reasonably credible excuse.

    I went to her friends place warning her beforehand that I had to go later. My reasoning was the following: if she just met me and invited me where all his friends may see me, it must show some degree of confort and the opportunity to get the approval, or not, from her friends opinion (or, perhaps, wanted a free ride?) I barely talked to her, instead talked to her friends, in order to show that I am socially adept, specially with her inner circle of friends.

    I will go out with two girls this weekend, so I am diversifying my options and not putting her into a pedestal.

    So, how much should I wait to call her? I think a 8-10 days is adequate. I do not think she is the type to search for me or take the initiative. What should I do if she does not search for me? (other than looking for other pussy)


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