I need some advice on this situation.
So i recently started hanging out with one of my sisters old friends ( they recently stopped talking). Met her through my sister, hit her up on facebook, number closed last week. We had lunch a couple days ago, seemed to hit it off really well, had her laughing almost spent at least an hour talking until i broke rapport intentionally and said i had to leave. weve been texting since then (traditional good text rules, not responding immediatly or too much. being cocky funny etc, ya know the usual, being scarce etc)
So last night I had got home around 10pm, texted her a bit then called her and invited her over. She asked for directions and then came over very quickly, lives about 35 mins away was here in like 30. We chilled watched a movie and she spent the night, made out almost f closed but had no rubbers ( abit of last minute resistance each time things escalated, apparently she has an ex on the mind that she mentioned and got into an arguement with recently). we stayed up the whole night makin out or talking in my room, finally fell asleep at like 6am , we woke up at noon , grabbed a bite (talked on a deeper level while she was laying in my arms ) went back to my place and she left as she had work soon.
so while she was at work she texts me(out of the blue):
Thinkin back on everything now, I just need a bit of time with this. I'm just emotionally and mentally spent right now between work, school, my x and everything else. I just have to digest everything thats currently going on in my life. I'm not trying to say that I dont want to get to know you or anything like that but i just wanna take things slow and not jump into anything serious right off that bat. Like hanging out today with you was great and absolutely fine. So if we can take it at that pace for now, that would be awesome.
Right from the get go she filled me in on her situation with her ex, but I gave it a grain of salt.
So my question is...
How do i respond to this, I would like to build something more serious with her. I was thining about running some bfdt patterns. As she talked to me alot about the ex, regarding their problems and why they broke up and such. However my sister clued her into my pua ways some time back including bfdt, (Traitor!!)
I'm crafting a response that will say something like: Thats cool, like I've said before I'm not really looking to jump back on the market here.
Idk what really to say.
So heres what I said:
Its all kosher, I enjoyed being with you more than words can describe, but like I said I'm not really looking to jump into things in particular or on a whim. Besides I really dont want to complicate things for ya, based on what you said it sounds like theres still something tween you and your ex and he still cares about you. And I dont want to come between that. Any how ill catch ya later chica
Immediatly her response:
Yea I dont wanna jump in to anything on a whim either. I rather take it slow and figure out things step by step. As for the ex, he told me that we're done he sees this going nowhere, he doesnt trust me or anyone for that matter, and he said he'll either lie or cheat on me. my problem is that i dont want to prove him right, but that means i end up getting hurt in the end. Like i said both roads are wrong here but in the end i need to be happy.
My delayed response...
(still thinking about it.
I'm typically not a one-itis type dude and maybe because she is fresh in my head but i got it bad 4 her. Maybe i need to set her on the back burner for a bit. Ideas? Thoughts? Questions?