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    johnnybob62 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Feeling very frustrated, need advice!

    Hey guys, havent been on in a while. Back home from college now and feeling depressed/frustrated.

    I just feel so off my game, not that i had really good game before :/

    Anyway, my town is dead, there are no girls, no clubs, nothing! Bars are out cause im 19.

    I need some help, im a pu**y, i cant just walk up to girls and talk to them. I get all read and my voice quivers, same sh*t happens when i have to give a speech.

    Any advice? What can i do to just go up to any girl? Something to occupy myself, like a checklist for each day. How do i approach girls?

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    Default Re: Feeling very frustrated, need advice!

    hey
    you're asking advice on how to approach girls. the real question is: why to not approach girl? they are hoping/waiting for it. you have to start believing that you are the best thing that can happen for them, and become confident approaching. it'll require some practice, and you will always feel AA when approaching, but you know what, AA will transform form something unpleasant to something challenging that you enjoy.

    there is no secret sauce, kick your butt.

    if there are no girl in your town, arrange weekends away, bring a friend (better not to go sarging in group in my opinion..)

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    Default Re: Feeling very frustrated, need advice!

    There are a few things I use, because even though I don't have stage fright I used to have some bad AA.

    1. Preparation- knowing the opener, and a few DHVs.
    2. 3 second rule- if you see someone hot, start walking immediately. Longer than 3 seconds and you'll get too anxious.
    3. Consider AA like a pebble in your shoe ( I believe this is Style's analogy): you don't let the pebble stop you from walking, it's just a nuisance.

    More specific suggestions:
    1. Enroll in an acting class.
    2. Buy Style's "Rules of the Game," and do the 30 day challenge.
    3. Join meetup.com and find some cool sh*t to do. They do events where everyone is there to meet each other, so it's pretty awesome.

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    Default Re: Feeling very frustrated, need advice!

    Quote Originally Posted by johnnybob62 View Post
    Anyway, my town is dead, there are no girls, no clubs, nothing! Bars are out cause im 19.
    I guess the night game is out of the picture. So you need some day game. And man, day game takes some balls. If you can ramp up your day game the other aspects of your game will improve as swiftly as you can imagine.

    Day game's biggest problem is of course AA. There isn't any alcohol or darkness that can protect you from people's watching eyes and people aren't expected to socialize as much as compared to a club environment, so approaching is obviously harder. But it comes with greater reward. Since the girls don't expect to be approached during day time, their b1tch shields will be down, therefore getting their numbers should be easy. Sounds cool, right?

    If you have serious AA, start approaching to the people who won't intimidate you. Like little kids or elderly people. Make some small talk. Then, approach dudes around your age. And finally, approach those cute girls around you. Step by step. It's perfectly okay if you can't pull out their phone number on the first try. It's okay if you freeze and run out of things to say. In time, they will all pass. AA may be the biggest obstacle for most aspiring PUAs so when you get rid of it, the rest is usually cake. So make sure you kill it, and kill it for good.

    AA may strike back unexpectedly even if you thought you got rid of it. It's like the period for men. It happens to the best of us. You just gotta accept the fact and move on, keep sarging.

    FYI: I'm 19 as well, if you need help with college game, let me know. I might pick up some useful things from you too.

    Good luck,
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    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: Feeling very frustrated, need advice!

    Johnnybob! Get the fark back on the forums! Sorry I haven't been around lately (since winter) but uni is starting again soon. Shoot me a PM or post about what's troubling you.

    As for this specific challenge...

    Talk to highschool girls. (Or I guess you call them 'lyceum' in the U.K.) point is you are in the 19-year-old-guy dulldrums. The age of 19 is when you are old enough to be confident, and yet still young enough to be shot down.

    To boost your confidence:

    Tell older chicks you're 26 (if you can pull it off - slow body language is the ticket)
    OR
    Tell younger girls (17-ish is the age) that you are 19 and on holiday from uni. You don't have to sleep with them, just bask in the revelry that they view you as an incomprehensibly superior entity
    DTF HB's omw 2 LTR


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